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Is it okay to keep pregnancy secrets away from close friends?

Let's talk about something a little bit sensitive to some of us. Three days ago, I got a message on instagram from a friend, joyfully stating that his girlfriend who happens to be close to me has given birth to a lovely baby girl. I was so happy and of course we all know that children are gifts from God. The news made my day, immediately I sent a message on instagram congratulating her.

Now, what is very interesting is that I was not aware that she was having a baby, and we chilled out a lot during the summer period, tho she looked fresher and glowed even more but I never suspected a pregnancy. I just kept complimenting her skin. Fall came and I got really busy so we did more of phone calls and chats to stay in touch.

 To me it is very ok, because we all have that one thing that we would like to keep very private, but in other words a friend of mine who also happens to be more closer to her, wasn't happy that she kept such good news away from her. 
I just want to know your opinion and what you think about close friends keeping such kind of information away from you. Do you think it is a red button? or do you think everyone has a choice and can do whatever they like so you do not mind if a close friend doesn't tell you she is expecting a baby?
I want to hear your honest opinion on this, leave a comment in the comment box below.
Thank you for reading.


  1. So lovely post!
    Have a great day! xx

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  2. Congratulations to your friend! :) I didn't tell all my friends I was pregnant when I had my boys - although if they had seen me in person or on the blog it was hard to hide, haha! I just don't share that many photos on my personal facebook and didn't have a big announcement post so if you hadn't seen me in person you wouldn't have known, unless you were family who live far away I told on the phone. not everyone wants to make a big announcement, no harm in that :)

    Hope that you are having a good week so far! I had the day off yesterday which was lovely :)

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    1. Well said we all have choice an we do what suits us.

  3. Honestly, I would also be hurt that I didn't know about my close friend having a child or just anything that is major for them in that matter. But I also believe that there's nothing wrong with someone's deciding to keep certain aspects of their lives private, despite the relationship status you have. There are various reasons for them doing so, such as perception of someone's energy or the 'closeness' just because they are close to you doesn't mean you are close to them (If you get me).
    There's nothing your friend should feel upset about, if it bothers her too much she could try talking it out with the other party in an appropriate occasion. I hope this was helpful :).

    Enjoy the rest of your week. xx

    1. there's nothing wrong with someone's deciding to keep certain aspects of their lives private... right

  4. I didn't tell all my friends when I was Pregnant, immediately...
    Congrats to your friend!!!
    Kisses, Paola.


  5. Great post dear!

  6. Congrats to your friend! Maybe they just wanted to surprise you all, I`m sure they had a reason for this!

  7. Congrats to your friend! I think a pregnancy can be quite difficult so it's okay to keep it a secret.

    Kisses from Germany


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  9. Congrats to your friend! :)
    That is a though question...

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  10. I think I would only tell my closest friends and only when I was ready. :)

  11. Congratulations to your friend. I think that it's her choice whether she wanted to share the news with others or not and there could be a number of reasons why she decided not to.

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  12. There are real friends and friends of convenience.
    True friends are those who want to share everything with you, from banalities to important things. Friends of convenience are those who make themselves alive with you when it suits them.
    A true friend, does not keep a pregnancy secret, also because we do not talk about a secret that you have to keep for 2 or 3 days, but for 9 months.
    I would have really been very bad!

    1. Thanks for this... All I needed to see. I thought the same as well.

  13. Having kids is good too!
    A blessing in life!

  14. I think so! I waited until I was at least 3 months pregnant!
    Have a wonderful weekend, love!
    xoxo, Vanessa

  15. There is no correct answer to this question Melody. It depends a lot on the type of person who is your friend. Many people are extremely reserved and this is also a good quality...
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  16. I feel like you should tell your closest friends. And family (also closest family). If it was my best friend I'd be a little bit mad. I don't know it just seems like a huge part of life to hide. But with people that I don't have a relationship like with family member I wouldn't mind.

  17. I believe if you are close to a person you should tell. Eventually everyone will know and you don't want to hurt a close friend. :-)

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  18. I have friends who also kept their pregnancy a secret and I wasn't angry at them. A lot of woman have had miscarriages so that is why they want to keep it a secret. In addition, some have to keep it a secret because their employer would fire them or wouldn't renew their contract. That was the case with one of my friends. She was worried about getting fired so that is why she has kept it a secret. I think everyone has the right to keep it to themselves. Sometimes people need time to process. Sometimes they need time for themselves. We should be understanding and accepting of everyone's choice.

  19. I think this is really a private thing and nobody is forced to tell a pregnancy even to close friends.
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena

  20. I think, one should have a say on what he/she wants to share to his/her to other people. It's your life, so you do you. Whatever makes you feel comfortable. True friends will understand.
    Jessica |

  21. Oh wow! That is really something. Agreed that children are gifts! Everyone is different xx


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