One of the most confusing things I noticed was during our friendly debates. We'd argue about an issue, like health statistics in a particular country, and she would debate while clearly reading from her phone, as if we didn't notice. We were arguing about what we'd already read, but she'd be looking up facts in real-time, often switching to an entirely different, unrelated topic mid-argument. It was so draining, and it always left me feeling dismissed and incredibly frustrated.
I read Shanna Pearson's book, Invisible ADHD: Proven Mood and Life Management for Smart Yet Scattered Women, an educative read. Published in late 2025, this isn't just another textbook; it's a compassionate and practical guide that bridges the gap between clinical knowledge and lived experience. Pearson, a seasoned ADHD coach with a background in psychology, has created a resource that speaks directly to the often-misunderstood presentation of ADHD in women.
The book is an absolute game-changer because it moves beyond the stereotypes of inattentive or hyperactive types and goes into the nuanced, "invisible" symptoms that many women, and even some men, experience. It reframes what we think of as disorganization or flightiness as a result of a neurodivergent brain struggling with executive functions.
Pearson's approach is both validating and empowering. She explains that it’s not a character flaw but rather a neurological difference that can be managed with the right tools. The book provides over 100 practical strategies for everything from managing emotional dysregulation to structuring daily life. To help you understand its core concepts, here's a simplified table illustrating a few key examples from the book.
| Common Behavior | Underlying ADHD Challenge | Pearson's Practical Tool |
| Forgetting appointments/tasks | Poor working memory and task initiation. | "The Two-Minute Rule": If a task takes less than two minutes, do it immediately to prevent it from being forgotten. |
| Emotional outbursts or overreactions | Emotional dysregulation. The brain struggles to filter and process intense feelings. | "The 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique": A simple mindfulness exercise to quickly anchor yourself in the present and regain control. |
| Chronic disorganization/messiness | Difficulty with long-term planning and sustained attention. | "The 'Clutter-Free' Hotspot": Designate one small area (like a bedside table) to always keep clear, providing a visual cue of control. |
The Path to Solutions: What I Learned from the Book
Beyond simply validating the "why," Pearson's book provides a powerful "how." She offers a treasure trove of practical, everyday solutions that don't rely on willpower but on working with the ADHD brain's natural wiring. It's like being handed a user's manual for a brilliant but sometimes chaotic operating system.
- "The Brain Dump": Instead of trying to hold on to a dozen different thoughts, a person with ADHD can simply write them all down on a piece of paper or in a note-taking app. This frees up mental space and prevents that overwhelming feeling of having too much to do at once. It's like clearing out your computer's RAM so it can run faster.
- Creating a "Command Center": This is a designated, highly visible spot where all essential items like keys, wallet, and phone live. The idea is to make it impossible to lose them, as there is only one place to look. This might mean a specific hook by the door for keys or a tray for phones, so they don't spend twenty minutes searching for them, wasting time.
- "The Two-Minute Rule": This simple idea is deceptively effective. If a task takes less than two minutes, do it immediately. This could be putting a dish in the dishwasher, sending a quick email, or taking out the trash. These small, completed tasks provide a tiny hit of dopamine and build momentum, making it easier to tackle bigger projects.
- "Body Doubling": This is the concept of doing a task alongside someone else to stay focused. For many with ADHD, simply being in the presence of another person who is also working can help them stay on task. This might explain why my friend can't focus alone but can get things done while on the phone with me. It creates a gentle, external sense of accountability that bypasses the internal struggle.
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Oh my goodness, you guys! I just had to sit down and gush about the latest book that's completely captivated me. I mean, you know me, I've got a pile of books probably taller than I am, lol just kidding, but every now and then, one just hits different. And that's exactly what "The Garden Against Time" by Olivia Laing did.
Finding My Reading Nook: A Little Bit of Barons Haugh Magic
So, before I even dive into the book, let me set the scene. I took this beauty with me to Barons Haugh Nature Reserve to do some reading in nature – honestly, there's nothing quite like it. It's such a peaceful spot, perfect for getting lost in a good book. I actually took some photos there (you might have seen a sneak peek on my Instagram), and while it's gorgeous, I won't be sharing too much about Barons Haugh just yet. We didn't get to explore it quite the way I wanted to this time, so we're definitely planning a proper return trip. For those of you familiar with the area, think of it as another lovely spot, a bit similar to the feel of Lochwinnoch but with its own unique charm. It was the absolute ideal backdrop for this particular read.
"The Garden Against Time": More Than Just a Book About GardensNow, onto the main event: Olivia Laing's "The Garden Against Time." Guys, if you're expecting a cozy guide to planting petunias, you're in for a surprise. This book is so much more than that. It's truly a masterpiece of non-fiction, blending so many genres that it feels like a whole new literary experience.
Olivia Laing, the writer, is just brilliant. She has this incredible way of weaving together her own deeply personal experiences – in this case, the very physical, sometimes grueling, work of restoring an overgrown walled garden in Suffolk – with vast stretches of cultural history, literary criticism, and nature writing. It's like she pulls a thread from her own life and it unravels into centuries of human thought and emotion.
What she really digs into is this idea of gardens as a kind of paradise. We all have that image, right? A perfect, serene escape. But what Laing does, so intelligently and unflinchingly, is she peels back the layers to show the hidden costs of creating these beautiful spaces. She doesn't shy away from the darker side of history – the links to power, privilege, even exploitation. She makes you really think about how many of these idyllic visions were built on the enclosure of common lands or even colonial legacies. It's a challenging, necessary conversation to have, and it completely shifted my perspective.
But here's the thing: it's not all doom and gloom. Even amidst these profound critiques, Laing manages to find so much hope and even radical possibility within gardens. She highlights figures and places where gardens became sites of incredible creativity, resilience, and even a kind of defiance against conventional norms. She shows us how working with the land, understanding its cycles, can be a way to connect with something much bigger than ourselves – to grapple with time itself.
Reading this book felt like having the smartest, most insightful friend gisting you about the world, history, and humanity, all through the lens of something as seemingly simple as a garden. It’s beautifully written, thought-provoking, and utterly absorbing.
If you love books that make you see the world differently, that blend the personal with the profound, and that aren't afraid to ask big questions, then you absolutely must add "The Garden Against Time" to your TBR pile. It's a genuine journey, and one I highly recommend you embark on.
Go grab a copy, maybe find your own quiet spot in nature, and let me know what you think!
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When I started reading Chris Guillebeau's book on time anxiety, a powerful realization hit me: I was completely guilty of it. With each page, it felt as though the writer was speaking directly to my soul.
For years, I avoided celebrating my birthday. I'd ask myself, "What have I even achieved?" Is it truly worth celebrating?" I'd go silent, and if someone wished me a happy birthday, I'd feel nervous and anxious all day. Most of my friends didn't even know when my birthday was, and while those who did always wished me well, they never understood the deep questions it triggered within me.
I come from a family where everything I needed was provided. My dad was one of the best graduating students of his time, with many awards. Whenever I looked at him, I exuded such confidence ; he knew his field inside out, understood himself, and could speak eloquently about his journey. He has a loving family, of which I am a part. My dad always encouraged us but never pushed us beyond our limits. Yet, time anxiety never lets me truly enjoy the process of life.
I started working really early, driven by my own desire. My dad initially didn't approve, but he quietly watched me teach students math and English. Right after secondary school, I began teaching at a primary school. There was one girl who struggled with speaking, and her aunt wanted me to tutor her so she could attend school, as English was the language of instruction. I felt confident I could teach her, and you know what? She learned English and today she speaks it well. But I noticed that with every achievement, I immediately asked myself, "What next?" This constant focus on the future prevented me from enjoying the present process.
I graduated with a degree in General Medicine, but while I was studying, I also worked as a model and blogger, sold shoes, and collaborated with agencies to help international students travel. I wasn't lacking anything; my dad made sure I had all I needed. But I never rested. Some might say I was just hardworking, not letting my comfortable family background make me complacent. But knowing what I know now, I wouldn't have done it without truly enjoying the process. I was so fixed on the result that I missed out on the journey. I always had something to do, always a goal; there was no time to relax. I can't recall a single time in Ukraine when I went out to simply chill without feeling guilty that I could be doing something more "productive" than resting. It took me a long time to understand that resting is a crucial part of the process. So I kept racing.
If you follow my Instagram, you might’ve seen the post where I shared my excitement about finally getting my copy of Hope in Action. But as always, I like to save my full reflections for the blog — and this book deserves it.
I still remember when the videos of Sanna Marin dancing broke out online. Headlines everywhere called her “the partying prime minister.” Politicians accused her of being unprofessional; others questioned her ability to lead. Watching that unfold felt cruel — a young woman leader being punished for simply being human. That noise made me curious about the person behind the headlines. So when I learned that Marin had written a memoir, I knew I had to read it.
The book, just over 250 pages, opens with her own words: “Hope is not naïve. It is a choice, and it requires action.” That line set the tone for everything that followed. Marin takes us through her early years growing up in a working-class Finnish family, raised by two women who struggled to make ends meet, yet instilled in her a fierce sense of fairness. By page 42, she writes about being the first in her family to attend university — and the quiet pressure that came with carrying other people’s hopes.
The most challenging section for me came midway through, when she describes those long nights during the first COVID-19 lockdowns. On page 118, she recalls sitting alone in her office at 2 a.m., drafting emergency decrees and wondering if the decisions she was making would cost lives. “Leadership,” she writes, “isn’t about certainty; it’s about carrying uncertainty with grace.” That line stayed with me. It reminded me that true courage often feels like doubt, not confidence.
I was at Black Devon Wetlands yesterday, finding my absolute happy place in nature, totally lost in Tim Winton's incredible novel, "Juice." Seriously, there's nothing quite like reading surrounded by lush, beautiful nature and the gentle sounds of water. I even wore my black dress, and it felt so peaceful just soaking it all in. How I love reading in nature – it just makes everything feel more profound.
And speaking of profound, let's talk about "Juice" by Tim Winton. Published in 2024, this book is a powerful, almost prophetic, piece of climate fiction from the brilliant Australian author. It's not a light read, but wow, does it make you think.
The story drops you into a dystopian future Australia, a world ravaged by extreme heat and the devastating consequences of past capitalist exploitation. Imagine summers so brutal you have to live underground just to survive! The narrative kicks off with our unnamed protagonist, a man, and a silent, traumatized young girl, on the run. They stumble upon an abandoned mine site, only to be captured by a mysterious "bowman." The entire sprawling story unfolds as the narrator, in a desperate bid to save himself and the girl, recounts his entire life story to this captor.
He tells of growing up in a harsh but frugal agrarian commune with his stern mother, learning to survive in this new, unforgiving landscape. But as the world continues to deteriorate, he finds himself drawn into a shadowy organization known as "The Service." Their mission? To "acquit" – which is a chilling euphemism for assassinating – the remaining billionaires and corporate figures who were responsible for the climate collapse, the architects of what Winton calls "fossil capitalism."
Winton doesn't shy away from the harsh truths of this future, but what really got to me was the raw, desperate hope for survival that ran through every page, even in the worst times. It's about how strong the human spirit is and how it can be both very harsh and very loving when pushed to the very edge. The title "Juice" is so smart since it means more than simply energy (like fossil fuels). It also means the will and vital force you need to keep going.
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Body image is such a big deal these days. Yesterday, while having a destress day with my partner at Loch Lomond, I carried the book "Body Confident You, Body Confident Kid" by Dr. Charlotte Ord.
Before I even started reading, I browsed through the entire book. I wanted to understand how it was structured. This also helped me get to know more about Dr. Ord. As I read, her intentions became clear. Books like this are essential for parents, especially those who are struggling with their own body image. This can happen at any point in life. Although I haven't finished it yet, some chapters really grabbed my attention.
One thing I've always known is that a parent's struggle with body image can be passed on to their child. On the other hand, confident and positive parents tend to raise confident kids. In a society where everyone compares themselves and strives for an outward appearance of perfection, being a confident parent can make a huge difference for your children. Never underestimate the knowledge your kids gain from you. They learn primarily by observing how you carry yourself.
For me, my parents always told us we were beautiful. My mom consistently praised herself and talked about how lovely she looked. This really built my confidence. Because of this foundation, you can't tell me anything negative about myself. I know I am beautiful. This feeling held true even when I had a girl around me during medical school. She constantly tried to undermine my confidence. She would say things like, "Oh, you're so slim and have no flesh. Your breasts are small; what will a man touch? You don't have big bums, what will a man grab?" She was constantly trying to destroy my confidence because she saw how confident I was. I always wondered why.
Mind you, I have never had any issue with this girl, not for one day.
However, knowing what I know now, she was projecting her own insecurities onto me. Facially, she wasn't ugly. In fact, she was also beautiful, though not as beautiful as me – and I say that as a matter of fact. She was a larger woman, with good height and nice skin, but she had very low self-esteem. This led her to try and belittle me with her words. One of her friends even laughed and said she was jealous of me and wanted to look like me, which is why she always had something negative to say.
I knew that. However, there's more to the situation. She constantly talked about her boyfriend at the time, saying he liked thick women and could never be attracted to someone like me. I honestly didn't care about his preferences. Yet, somehow, I was always the topic of her conversations— always on her lips. Eventually, he ended up asking me out, and I definitely wasn't going to let that slide. Here's how it unfolded:
We all lived in the same house. I was in the kitchen one day when he came up to me and said I looked sad. I was sad because I had just received bad news that made it feel like my world was falling apart. I had failed my first trial after a lot of studying. One day, I'll share that experience and how it shaped me for life. To make the story short, he offered me a hug. While I initially thought it was a harmless gesture, his grip was uncomfortably tight. I thought, "Maybe this is just how he hugs," but he wasn't letting go. I had to physically pull away. Before this incident, he would frequently comment on my hair in the kitchen, saying things like, "Oh, your hair is beautiful, can I touch it?" in a way that was more personal than just a compliment. I would always respond with a simple "thank you." He commented on my style sense a lot—not in the right manner but in more of an I like you way, but I never took it to heart.
After the hug incident, I packed my things and moved out of the house I shared with his girlfriend the next day. She was angry about the way I left, even though our other friend, who also lived there, told her I left because of her actions. She never understood what our friend meant.
That girl tried to bring me down and criticize my features, which were the same features her boyfriend was attracted to. He ended up dating a woman who had my body type. "He left her in a disrespectful way." She found out from her friends that he was dating another woman.
There are many people who struggle internally. Instead of seeking help, they create fake accounts on social media and insult others. Some have friends they admire, but instead of complimenting them, they constantly bring them down and give bad advice. Sadly, those friends might not realize it until it's too late. People who never let you make your own choices, always deeming yours as bad and only theirs as good, often suffer from low self-esteem. I've experienced this firsthand. I can confidently say that my parents did an excellent job of complimenting every aspect of me. Today, no one can tell me anything negative about myself. I know I am beautiful, and that's the end of the story. If you don't like my size, take it up with God.
"Body Confident You, Body Confident Kid" is such an inspiring read. It doesn't just focus on body-confident parents but also on how to raise body-confident kids. One thing I particularly appreciate about the book is the exercises you can do with your child.
On page 216, she discusses how exercise is often viewed as purely a physical process by many. Exercise can be tough for some kids, and not just physically. If you don't feel like you have the "ideal" body, have sensory sensitivities, or aren't naturally athletic, gym class and sports can make you feel more self-conscious and ashamed. It's like you're already worried about how you look or what you can do, and then exercise just shines a spotlight on all of that.
Plus, let's be real, working out can suck. It can hurt, you get all sweaty and out of breath, and it's just plain uncomfortable sometimes. So, it makes total sense that as kids get older and start thinking more about themselves, they're like, "Nah, I'm good on that."
It's like we're wired to avoid pain, right? Whether it's your muscles burning or feeling embarrassed. And for a lot of kids, exercise is both of those things rolled into one. It's even worse when some adult is telling you exactly what to do and how hard to push yourself, like in PE. You can't even listen to your own body and what feels okay.
The writer also added that she even remembers this time in school when everyone had to run this super- long race. She was into sports and loved the challenge, but she saw other kids just chilling and chatting their way through it. At the time, she didn't get it. But now she realizes that those kids just didn't care about winning or pushing themselves like she did. They valued hanging out with their friends more than some dumb race, and they were smart enough to not do something that felt bad.
You know how I often talk about feeling that "flatness," that nagging unrest even when things are going well? That relentless question, "What can I do?" – even now, as I'm pouring my energy into learning about building wealth from every angle. Well, Michael Finnerty, the author of this memoir, perfectly articulates that exact feeling at the start of his story. He was a highly successful journalist, working for big names like The Guardian, seemingly living the dream. But beneath the surface, he was hollowed out, disconnected from anything tangible, and utterly drained by the abstract, often cynical world of media. He felt like his life was moving too slowly and empty and just left him wanting more – exactly how I've often felt, especially when my own wealth-building ventures feel like they're not making headway.
Then, one day, something significant happened that changed everything for him. He was at Borough Market in London, drawn in by its vibrant energy, the genuine buzz of real people doing real things. He found himself utterly captivated by a particular cheese stall, mesmerized by the passionate cheesemongers and the sheer physicality of their work. In a move that truly resonated with my own desire for significant change, he took a radical leap: he applied for a job as an apprentice cheesemonger. Can you imagine?! Leaving behind a prestigious career for... cheese.
The bulk of the book is about his fascinating journey into this entirely new world, and honestly, it’s where the "cure" really takes hold. He dives headfirst into the very real, often pungent, world of artisanal cheese. He describes the incredibly hard, physical work – the long hours on his feet, the bone-chilling cold of the cheese room, the sheer weight of lifting those massive wheels of cheese. It’s a complete contrast to his old desk job, and he finds a strange, profound therapy in this physical reconnection with his body.
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