How to tell yourself the truth

How to tell yourself the truth


We think we know ourselves. We know our goals, our fears, and the stories we tell. Yet, the single most powerful barrier to growth isn't an external obstacle. It's the lie we tell ourselves every day. This self-deception protects us in the moment but guarantees stagnation over the long term.

Telling yourself the truth is not a one-time event; it is a radical, continuous practice that acts as the foundation for all authentic success and emotional freedom. It demands courage, but the rewards of clarity, genuine self-trust, and alignment are worth the effort.

The Psychology of Self-Deception

Why do we lie to ourselves when we know, on some level, what is real? The answer lies in our brain’s deep-seated need to maintain comfort and protect our self-image.

1. The Power of Cognitive Dissonance

This is the central reason we lie. Cognitive dissonance is the mental stress or discomfort we feel when our actions, beliefs, or new information clash with our existing self-perception.
  • The Lie as a Defense Mechanism: To quickly relieve that stress, the brain often chooses the path of least resistance: it changes the belief instead of the behavior. If you tell yourself you want to write a book but spend three hours scrolling every night, it’s easier to tell yourself, "I'm just too busy to write," than to admit, "I am prioritizing scrolling over my dreams." The lie resolves the uncomfortable contradiction.
2. The Comfort of the Familiar

Our brains prefer routines, even dysfunctional ones. Telling the truth often implies a major change, like leaving a relationship, changing careers, or adopting a difficult new habit. The fear associated with the unknown future is often greater than the pain of the known, stagnant present. We tell ourselves, "It's not that bad," to stay safely within our comfort zone.

3. Misbeliefs and Learned Narratives

Many lies we tell ourselves aren't conscious; they are misbeliefs rooted in childhood or societal conditioning. These sound like "I am not worthy of success" or "I am better off alone." We maintain these narratives because they feel fundamental to who we are, even though they actively sabotage our progress.

We often treat sunlight as something to be strictly avoided, a hidden enemy we must slather in cream to escape. While protection is vital, this fear has led us to overlook the power of moderate, controlled sun exposure.

I've found that the single biggest, free energy shift for people struggling with afternoon slumps and low energy is not more coffee. It's optimizing their morning light exposure. Spending a brief 15–20 minutes in direct sunlight each day is a powerful, science-backed practice for optimizing key biological functions.

Here are the 10 science-backed benefits that occur when you give your body a daily 20-minute recharge.

1. Boosts Vitamin D Synthesis (Essential Hormone)

Sunlight hitting your skin triggers the synthesis of Vitamin D3, which is essential for calcium absorption and is vital for strong bones. A few minutes of midday sun exposure is often sufficient to meet daily requirements, helping to support bone health and prevent conditions like osteoporosis.

2. Regulates Circadian Rhythm

Daily exposure to bright light, particularly in the morning, is the strongest natural signal for your body to reset your internal clock (circadian rhythm). This process halts the production of the sleep hormone melatonin. This daily biological reset ensures you are alert during the day and can achieve deeper, more consistent sleep quality at night.

3. Elevates Mood and Fights Depression

Sunlight exposure naturally increases the brain's production of serotonin, the neurotransmitter associated with feelings of well-being, focus, and happiness. This natural mood lift is why therapies using bright light are routinely employed in treating conditions like Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).

4. Strengthens the Immune System

Vitamin D plays a direct role in modulating immune function, helping to reduce inflammation and strengthen the body's defenses against pathogens. Adequate levels are strongly associated with a more robust and responsive immune system.

5. Reduces Blood Pressure

A fascinating benefit of sunlight is its effect on your vascular system. Exposure to UVA light causes the skin to release stores of nitric oxide, a compound that acts as a vasodilator. This process helps to widen blood vessels, which results in a significant lowering of blood pressure, reducing the risk of cardiovascular events.

6. Supports Eye Health

Spending time outdoors and exposing your eyes to natural, broad-spectrum light (without staring directly at the sun) is highly beneficial, particularly for children. Natural light exposure is associated with a reduced risk of myopia (nearsightedness).

So, the last 2 Sundays, my partner and I headed out with a single goal: The Loup of Fintry Waterfall. We’d literally just searched for those “wow, look at the fall colors” kind of beautiful spots, and Fintry popped right up.

We started our drive, and you know how it is in Scotland—the journey is often the destination. We were cruising along, and the mountain views were just everywhere. Left, right, center—each turn was a postcard-perfect moment. I kept thinking, “Wow,” and told my partner, “If you see another amazing view, let's just pull over for a sec.”

A few minutes later, BAM. We saw a lay-by packed with cars. Clearly, this was a spot, so we decided to stop and check it out. I mean, it looked like a total tourist magnet.

The moment I stepped out, I heard it: the unmistakable rush of a waterfall! My partner didn't catch it right away (go figure!), but I was already saying, “There’s a waterfall here; I can hear it!” And honestly, it was so loud, I couldn't believe he missed it at first!

Then we met this lovely man, a Ukrainian tourist, who was also wandering around looking for the source. “See? I told you! ” I exclaimed. Just as he headed off, a family passed by, and we quickly asked them if there was a waterfall nearby. They pointed us toward the direction of Campsie Glen—our unexpected destination!

Photo by Meshack Emmanuel Kazanshyi

Recently, former President of Nigeria Olusegun Obasanjo stood up and spoke plainly about the insecurity problem in Nigeria—the kidnappings, the shootings, and the violence. He declared that lives are being lost every day, and that it doesn’t matter what religion or tribe you belong to—every Nigerian life counts, and no ethnic or religious excuse can explain away the bloodshed.

He reminded us that security is the first duty of government: protecting people, their lives, and their property. But right now our government seems unable to do that.

He urged our leaders to act. He said that with modern tools—satellites and drones—we have the capacity to detect, locate, and stop criminals. So the question is: why aren’t we using them? Who is benefiting from this?

He went even further: if our own government cannot ensure our safety, Nigerians have every right to call on the international community to help. Saving lives must be the priority, not excuses, not silence.

That speech stirs many memories. Because when Obasanjo held power, some things were done—there were efforts to stabilize, security operations, and attempts at national unity. Maybe not perfect, just like any other government. But some things moved. He never negotiated with tourists, we never took nonsense from any of these bombers, the country was calm, and he acted fast.

Now I see a different Nigeria: one where invisible hands seem to profit from chaos. It’s not just insecurity. There’s talk about illegal mining, exploitation of mineral resources by foreign bodies, smuggling, and corruption—all under the watch of powerful people who benefit from it.

Some accuse parts of our elite—politicians, ex-generals, those once entrusted with trust—of letting foreign interests plunder our land. Illicit mining deals that steal from communities, destroy land, and poison lives. These people want to chase everyone from those areas and gain full control.

If criminals get to decide where rights are protected and when justice is enforced, Nigeria will keep burning—not because of religion or tribe, but greed.

We've all been told to “think critically” about what we see online, and yeah, that’s essential. But honestly? It's not enough anymore.

In today’s attention economy, our focus is the main target. We have to get strategic about what we don’t spend our energy on. Media literacy isn't just about analysis; it's about knowing when and how to close the tab.

Think of it this way: Strategic ignoring is just as vital as critical thinking. Psychologists and scholars agree that learning to filter out the manipulative or low-quality junk is a crucial skill for maintaining your mental clarity and digital well-being. It’s about being an efficient, smarter user of your own brain.

I and my partner have been saving this drink and wanting to have it when we could really enjoy it together...and then we had a road trip! We packed it and had it at sunset, that beautiful, golden hour light, right in Drumpellier Country Park. We sat, opened it, relaxed, and shared a couple of glasses. It was the perfect moment.

We had actually had a glass earlier that week, too, and we both absolutely loved it. And here is exactly why I'm now completely obsessed with Mother Root Ginger Switchel.

When the brand reached out and sent me a box to try, I was immediately drawn in. The aesthetic alone is gorgeous—I love the sunny yellow branding against the dark brown bottle. It looks like a heritage tonic, and the logo is really cool, too! But the contents? That’s the real magic.

What is Mother Root?

Before I get into the taste, let's talk about what this is. Mother Root is essentially a modern, premium take on a traditional tonic called a Switchel.

It’s an invigorating, non-alcoholic drink that is packed with potent, natural ingredients. Think of it as a delicious, fiery dose of goodness that’s great for your gut and an amazing alternative to sugary sodas or complicated cocktails.

The founder's goal was simple and brilliant: to create a drink that offers the satisfying, complex flavors of a cocktail but is non-alcoholic (0.1% ABV Alcohol-Free) and genuinely beneficial for your health. They wanted to deliver 'good feelings without compromise,' and honestly, they nailed it.



I know I shouldn’t be watching this kind of movie right now, but it wasn't my intention. This one, Train Dreams (2025), just gets under your skin. And what hits hardest is that sudden, sharp realization of the grace and privilege you have. You look at his life and you just... you breathe a little deeper and think about all the things you take for granted.

The whole thing is set in a very old time, back when life was raw and regulations were thin. It's about this man who didn't even know his mother or father. He was just a soul brought into a community, almost like a piece of property left there because, at that time, when people were born, they weren't put in registers or registered in hospitals. He was just... there.

He lived that lonely life, never knowing where he came from. He had to figure it all out, fending for himself, and he grew up working as a log man. Cutting wood, selling wood, carrying wood from the mountain—the heavy, back-breaking work of a laborer just making his own way. He was making money from day one, grinding it out, until he met this one girl. And like a switch flipped, he fell in love. She was the one who pushed him to start their life together. They got married, they got a house, and things were good.

But his work was far. He had to travel away for a few days, get back home, and then go again. That was their rhythm. Goes for a few days, gets back home. Goes for a few days, gets back home.

It's that rhythm that leads to everything. His wife got pregnant, and they had a baby girl. And with the kind of work he did, both of them got worried. He was going to miss her growing up. He wouldn't be a part of the child's life.

So they had a plan, a perfect little dream: they would get some land. She would plant on it to multiply their income, and then he would eventually join her as a farmer, and he wouldn't need to travel for work anymore. It was just one last trip. He needed to go out to work this last time, and then he would come back, and they would start their life together, fully, without the distance.

And then it happened. While he was away, a fire broke out in the village. Some areas were consumed, and his house was part of it.

He was just getting off the train—that Train Dreams moment—and he ran straight to his home. He couldn't even get into the place; it was already consumed by the fire. He tried his absolute best to look for his wife and daughter. He didn't see them.

Train dreams

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