At this point, I honestly felt worn out. It felt as if even Google Maps had gone on holiday. I am still processing all the details, but this is what happened today, the day after Christmas.
My partner and I had a disagreement on Christmas morning; you can read about it here. We talked it through late at night and agreed it should not have gone that way. We slept calmly and woke up feeling at peace, ready to embrace the day. With most places closed on the 25th of December, our plan was simple: spend time in nature. We wanted to visit the Cairngorms National Park, breathe deeply, relax, and enjoy the outdoors.
As soon as we woke up, my partner started making the bed, and I joined him. It felt like a small but meaningful reset. We got dressed, filled the car with fuel, and stopped at McDonald’s for breakfast around 10:45 a.m., and then we set off.
The drive was long, about an hour and a half. We kept going, trusting the photos we had seen online and hoping the place would be worth it. Eventually, we saw a signpost for the location. That is where the confusion began. There was nowhere to properly park, no clear entrance, and no visible walking path. Google Maps insisted we had arrived, but all we could see was thick forest and fenced land. It did not match what we had seen online, which showed trails, a castle, and accessible areas.
We drove back and forth several times, trying to make sense of it. By then, I was already feeling frustrated. We reset the map and entered the location again, but it redirected us to a place we had already visited before. That confirmed the directions were wrong.
When we stopped to ask a lovely elderly man for help, he explained that the park is enormous and that you cannot simply enter its general name into the map. You need to search for a specific landmark inside or near the park, such as a castle or trail. The route suggested from where we were would have taken another two and a half hours. At that point, I knew it was not realistic. Reluctantly, I told my partner we should not continue.
We tried once more by driving back to the original signpost to look for another access point, but again, there was nowhere to park and no clear way in. Eventually, we realised we had reached the correct area but from the wrong side. The map had taken us through a back route that was inaccessible to visitors.
On our way back, we decided to try another place, the Scottish Wildlife Trust at Loch of the Lowes. The map showed it was open, and it was only about 25 minutes away. When we arrived, the parking area was closed. The surroundings were beautiful: rivers, open land, animals, two people walking a dog, and a nearby golf area. But once again, there was nowhere to park, so we stayed in the car the entire time.
By then, I was overwhelmed. I had packed hot tea and barely touched it. It was already around 2:45 p.m., and we had been out since late morning without truly spending time in nature the way we had hoped. With winter days being so short, I knew the light would soon be gone.
I started crying on the drive home. I was disappointed that I had missed that quiet Christmas time in nature I had been longing for. My partner stayed calm and supportive. He asked what I needed in that moment and whether I wanted to try somewhere else or just go home. I decided it was best to head back.
He tried changing the music to cheer me up, and after a while, I noticed him moving to one of my favourite artists, Davido. I could not resist joining in. He smiled and said, “Let’s not let the outcome of today linger for long.”
With no restaurants open, he asked if I wanted KFC. We stopped, but the food was poorly cooked and disappointing, so we barely ate it. After that, my partner suggested going to a familiar spot by the water where we often watch the sunset. Before heading there, we stopped at Tesco to buy food to cook at home. Watching the sunset helped. It was peaceful, and we finally slowed down, talked, and laughed a little.
Despite everything, my partner did his best to make sure I felt supported. He reminded me that some days do not go as planned, but they can still be meaningful. We agreed that next time we visit a new nature spot, we will carefully read reviews beforehand. Other visitors often leave helpful details about parking, routes, and which location to enter into the map. Today, we were simply on the wrong route, and time ran out.
In the end, we spent the day together. We made up for the tension from yesterday. We came home, had wine and chocolate, and settled down to watch a movie. It was not the day we planned, but it will be one we remember and laugh about.
If this post feels confusing on its own, reading my previous post from the 25th of December will help. This is a follow-up to that story. Thank you to everyone who read and commented. I appreciate you.
I took a few photos of the sunset, but they might not be very clear; however, I hope you enjoy viewing them.
I hope your holiday is filled with peace and calm. How did you spend your Boxing Day? Hopefully with fewer wrong turns than me.
I hope your holiday is filled with peace and calm. How did you spend your Boxing Day? Hopefully with fewer wrong turns than me.
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Merry Christmas, everyone. I hope you are all having a beautiful day. Whether you are at home with family, spending it alone, or doing something entirely different, your story matters. Today, I want to share mine.
Before Christmas, I told my partner that I wanted to celebrate the day in nature, and we mutually agreed. I have always been drawn to nature: oceans, forests, parks, anywhere quiet and natural. Nature feeds my soul and reminds me that God is with me. It’s a living reminder of His presence. If God cares for the trees, the rain, and the birds, then I know He loves me deeply, too.
Nature settles me. It reminds me that life has seasons: a season to plant, a season to wait, and a season to harvest. No matter where you are, your life can still move toward a new blossom. That feeling is something I cannot fully explain; even pictures cannot capture what happens quietly in the mind and heart.
I had planned to spend this Christmas morning in a National Park here in Scotland. But as we know, sometimes life has other plans.
Before leaving, a small disagreement over making the bed turned into something deeper. I have been burdened with a heavy heart lately concerning my sister, and I did not want drama; I needed understanding.
I asked him to help me make the bed, but he refused, saying he had already folded the blankets. I told him clearly: if the bed is not made, I will not leave the house. To some, it’s just a bed, but to me, it was about effort. He had become too comfortable making excuses for not doing it properly, claiming he "couldn't do it like I do." To me, that felt like he didn't want to put in the effort to learn, and I didn't want that attitude to spill into other parts of our life.
Instead of understanding, he simply said, "Okay, we don't have to go," and fell asleep. In that moment, I faced a choice. I decided to pack my bag and head out on my own. As I walked, he called and said, "You spoiled our Christmas." I didn't argue. I simply told him, "You have your truth, and I have mine." I refused to stay in a cycle of blame.
I headed for the bus stop, not realizing that buses don't run on Christmas Day in the UK. Since I usually spend Christmas at church or home, this was new to me. I walked all the way to the central station, the air cold and the streets of Glasgow completely empty.
At one point, my bag strap snapped. In the past, this would have overwhelmed me, but today? I just adjusted and kept walking. I saw my own growth in that moment. At the station, the only options were expensive trips to Edinburgh or Stirling, and I realized I wouldn't make it to the park after all.
As I stood there, I started to tear up. I realized it wasn't just about the bus or the bed—it was because I hadn't taken my burdens to God in prayer. I had been trying to carry the weight of what was happening with my sister on my own shoulders.
The Holy Spirit whispered to me: “I carried you through the whole year, and you are crying over this moment?” Peace returned. I remembered that if God waters the trees, He surely has me. I thought of those in hospitals or in pain today. I am alive, independent, and breathing freely. That is a blessing.
Before Christmas, I told my partner that I wanted to celebrate the day in nature, and we mutually agreed. I have always been drawn to nature: oceans, forests, parks, anywhere quiet and natural. Nature feeds my soul and reminds me that God is with me. It’s a living reminder of His presence. If God cares for the trees, the rain, and the birds, then I know He loves me deeply, too.
Nature settles me. It reminds me that life has seasons: a season to plant, a season to wait, and a season to harvest. No matter where you are, your life can still move toward a new blossom. That feeling is something I cannot fully explain; even pictures cannot capture what happens quietly in the mind and heart.
I had planned to spend this Christmas morning in a National Park here in Scotland. But as we know, sometimes life has other plans.
Before leaving, a small disagreement over making the bed turned into something deeper. I have been burdened with a heavy heart lately concerning my sister, and I did not want drama; I needed understanding.
I asked him to help me make the bed, but he refused, saying he had already folded the blankets. I told him clearly: if the bed is not made, I will not leave the house. To some, it’s just a bed, but to me, it was about effort. He had become too comfortable making excuses for not doing it properly, claiming he "couldn't do it like I do." To me, that felt like he didn't want to put in the effort to learn, and I didn't want that attitude to spill into other parts of our life.
Instead of understanding, he simply said, "Okay, we don't have to go," and fell asleep. In that moment, I faced a choice. I decided to pack my bag and head out on my own. As I walked, he called and said, "You spoiled our Christmas." I didn't argue. I simply told him, "You have your truth, and I have mine." I refused to stay in a cycle of blame.
I headed for the bus stop, not realizing that buses don't run on Christmas Day in the UK. Since I usually spend Christmas at church or home, this was new to me. I walked all the way to the central station, the air cold and the streets of Glasgow completely empty.
At one point, my bag strap snapped. In the past, this would have overwhelmed me, but today? I just adjusted and kept walking. I saw my own growth in that moment. At the station, the only options were expensive trips to Edinburgh or Stirling, and I realized I wouldn't make it to the park after all.
As I stood there, I started to tear up. I realized it wasn't just about the bus or the bed—it was because I hadn't taken my burdens to God in prayer. I had been trying to carry the weight of what was happening with my sister on my own shoulders.
The Holy Spirit whispered to me: “I carried you through the whole year, and you are crying over this moment?” Peace returned. I remembered that if God waters the trees, He surely has me. I thought of those in hospitals or in pain today. I am alive, independent, and breathing freely. That is a blessing.
I walked back home with sore shoulders but a light heart. I didn’t have a big feast, but I had bread, sardines, and tea. I turned on a small light I received as a gift from work, played my music, and enjoyed my own company.
My message to you is this: Never let anyone take a moment away from you. Plans change, and people may lack empathy in moments, but you can still create joy. Learn to enjoy your own company and protect your peace. Secondly, remember that burdens are lifted at Calvary—take them to God in prayer.
I’m sharing some photos of Glasgow on this quiet morning. It was beautiful to see the city so calm. Tomorrow is another day, and God willing, I will finally make it to nature then.
How did you spend your Christmas? Was it what you planned, or did you find beauty in the unexpected? Share how you spent your Christmas day in the comment section.
Jesus is the reason for the season. Take care of yourselves!
It's Time! Your Practical November & December Christmas Bucket List is Here.
November is officially here, and you know what that means: it's time to stop scrolling through holiday dreams and start planning those cozy, festive weekends. You're looking for practical, easy-to-do Christmas bucket list ideas that will actually happen between now and New Year's, and I'm here to deliver.
Forget Lapland trips (unless you're secretly a millionaire). Let's focus on the things to do in November and December that make the season magical without requiring a plane ticket or a huge budget.
I know a lot of people love Christmas—that is lovely—but you see that overly crowded decor. Ahhh, I take a deep breath on that. I can not relate. I like simple Christmas decors, but when it’s too much, it just becomes a bit off to me. But if you like simple decor, here are ideas for inexpensive Christmas decor that will completely elevate your home's look.
I am focusing on relatable and doable ideas using lights, natural elements, and affordable items that anyone can do.
To achieve a simple, clean, and elegant look without spending a fortune, you don't need much. These items are the backbone of smart holiday decorating:
| Tool/Item | Purpose | Why it’s Essential |
| Clear/White LED Fairy Lights | Indoor/Outdoor Twinkle | Affordable, low-energy, and the ultimate Christmas decor multi-tasker. Look for battery-operated strings for placement flexibility. |
| Green Floral Wire/Twine | Securing Greenery | Use this instead of bulky zip ties for a clean, natural finish on garlands and wreaths. |
| Over-the-Door Wreath Hanger | Damage-Free Door Decor | Avoids drilling/tape and allows you to perfectly position a wreath or garland. |
| Pinecones & Foraged Greens | Natural, Free Accents | The cheapest Christmas decor there is! Pinecones, holly, and evergreen sprigs add instant texture and scent. |
| Ribbon (Burlap or Velvet) | Adding Color/Texture | A single, high-quality ribbon (red velvet, burlap, or black/white plaid) goes further than 5 different types of cheap ornaments. |
| Mason Jars / Glass Vases | Luminaries & Centerpieces | Repurpose items you already own to create beautiful, simple light features. |
This time of year, nothing screams "I'm organized!" quite like having your Advent calendar locked down. What started as chalk marks on a wall has become the ultimate holiday ritual and in 2024, they're bigger, better, and selling out earlier than ever.
The history of this delightful tradition and why you need to snag the best Advent calendars right now.
From Chalk Lines to Luxury: The Advent Calendar History
The tradition of Advent, the four weeks leading up to Christmas, is ancient, but the calendar itself is a relatively modern German invention.
The Origin Story (19th Century): The earliest version of the Advent calendar emerged in the mid-19th century in Germany, where families would use chalk to mark 24 days on a door or light one of 24 candles.
The First Printed Calendar: The calendar as we know it was popularized by Gerhard Lang in the early 1900s. Inspired by his mother, who made him a calendar with 24 tiny cookies or sweets, Lang created the first commercially printed version with little doors that opened to reveal a picture or Bible verse.
The Chocolate Revolution: While the original calendars just contained pictures, the sweet stuff started appearing in the 1950s. By the 1990s, the cheap chocolate version became the standard globally.
Today? It's evolved into a luxurious, high-value, and deeply personal gift. The modern calendar is less about counting to Christmas and more about enjoying 24 days of curated surprises.
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Look, let’s be honest. If you wait until December to start your shopping, you're already stressed. Since Black Friday is right around the corner, and the clock is ticking on customization deadlines, now is the time to nail down those lists.
I've broken down the best Christmas gift ideas into three key categories to ensure your presents are unique, thoughtful, and totally on-trend this year. Time to stop procrastinating and start winning Christmas.
Christmas Gift Ideas for Teens
Shopping for a teenager can feel like trying to guess the Wi-Fi password to a secret club. But don't worry—the trends are actually pretty clear this year. It's all about aesthetic, cozy, and portable tech.
- The Cozy Aesthetic: Anything that screams "I live a soft, curated life." Think plush, oversized hoodies, platform slippers (the new Ugg trend), and chunky knit beanies.
- The Viral Self-Care: They are obsessed with high-quality, gentle skincare. Look for viral lip oils, simple skincare sets for teens, or Rare Beauty products. A Touchland hand sanitizer is a must-have stocking stuffer for teens this year.
- Audio Obsession: Ditch the huge headphones and focus on sleek wireless earbuds or portable Bluetooth speakers.
- The Practical Win: A good-looking, rugged water bottle (like Owala or a sleek Hydro Flask) or a crossbody bag (they are back) that holds all their essentials.
It’s just two days to Christmas, and guess what? I’m not working on Christmas Day!
I’ve been thinking about writing a Christmas post because I can’t end this year without thanking everyone who has been reading, commenting, and supporting my blog. Writing and connecting with all of you through my thoughts and feelings about life has truly been one of my favorite activities this year.
A few days ago, my friend Ebube called and mentioned that she’d be coming to Glasgow for a day trip with Yinka. They planned to leave the next day, and it got me thinking about how every year, since moving to the UK during the Christmas period, I’ve had the chance to meet up with Ebube. Do you remember my Christmas trip to Edinburgh with Ebube? Well, we’re doing it again this year, but this time, it’s just a quick day trip before Christmas.
Yesterday, being Sunday, Yinka arrived on time as planned. She used FlixBus, and it didn’t disappoint this time. Unlike the first time I used it to travel to Aberdeen for her graduation, the delay at the station caused me to arrive late. Ebube, on the other hand, had a bit of a hectic journey. Her flight from Cork to Glasgow circled above the city for about 20–30 minutes because of strong winds, and they eventually decided to land at Edinburgh Airport instead. From there, she took a bus to Glasgow.
Once we picked her up from Glasgow airport, she dropped off her things at the hotel, changed her outfit, and we headed to the city center. We went to a lounge, relaxed, and caught up with each other.
They are both traveling back today; I really appreciate their presence. We had a wonderful time, and it was a lovely Christmas visit. They did mention that Glasgow didn’t seem to have much of a Christmas vibe or many lights, which I hadn’t noticed until they pointed it out. I joked that maybe the city was broke, and we all laughed about it. I wish them a safe journey back.
Let’s be real—Secret Santa in the office is not everyone’s cup of tea. Personally, I’d rather skip it entirely. There’s always that lingering pressure to pick something “perfect,” and no one needs another mug collecting dust in a cabinet (seriously, let’s retire the mug gifting trend). But if you’re in it and want to make your gift count, here are some safe, practical ideas that are both budget-friendly and actually useful.
Smart, Practical Gift Ideas
Desk Organizers
Everyone loves a tidy workspace. Think small drawer organizers, pen holders, or even cord clips to tame those unruly wires. They’re simple, functional, and won’t break the bank.
Mini Plants
Succulents or air plants are easy to care for and can liven up even the gloomiest desk. Bonus points if they’re low-maintenance—no one wants to babysit a high-maintenance ficus.
Fancy Snacks
Snacks are a crowd-pleaser, but skip the generic stuff. A box of gourmet popcorn, some artisan cookies, or even a curated mix of healthy treats can feel thoughtful without trying too hard.
Tech-Friendly Accessories
If your office is phone-free, go for other practical gadgets like blue-light glasses, a mini desk lamp, or a screen cleaning kit. They’re handy and show you’ve put some thought into the gift.
Notebooks or Planners
A sleek pocket notebook or a minimalist planner? Yes, please. Perfect for jotting down ideas, meeting notes, or just pretending to be organized.
Stress Relievers
A good stress ball, a fun fidget toy, or even a roll-on essential oil blend—these are great for those long workdays when you need to decompress (or survive another meeting).
Reusable Lunch Accessories
Collapsible lunch boxes, reusable cutlery sets, or even eco-friendly silicone food bags—practical, thoughtful, and perfect for anyone who brings their lunch.
Personalized Office Supplies
Customized sticky notes or quirky paperclips are small, affordable, and still show effort. Plus, they’re actually useful.
Keep the budget low, the gift neutral, and the vibe easygoing. Secret Santa should be fun, not an exercise in overthinking. If all else fails? Go for snacks—no one’s ever been mad about getting good snacks.
If you're looking for a meaningful gift guide to give to someone this holiday season, continue reading.
Food basket.
People are hungry. You see that friend or neighbor who keeps smiling like all is well—gift them a food basket. Forget the mugs and Christmas cards; buy a variety of food items, wrap them, and send it over. If you know where homeless people stay, you don’t always have to donate to a charity; you can buy a fruit basket or a basket with food items and go to the street to give it out. I cannot tell you how appreciated it will be when you do that. Although the person may not express it outwardly, I assure you that people truly need food.
Last month, on David Oyedepo's birthday, the founder of the Living Faith Church Worldwide, he chose to give birthday gifts to all church members around the world. He distributed two packets of medium-packaged rice, a carton of indomie noodles, and frying oil to all church members worldwide. When the church presented me with these gifts, I already had them at home. When I used the ones gifted by the church after my own ran out, I felt a deep sense of gratitude for their generosity.
Massage and spa gift cards.
The stress we have all experienced is beyond what words may express, so when considering a Primark or H&M gift card as a Christmas gift, keep in mind that a massage at the spa would be more helpful and beneficial to that person's well-being.
Fuel gift card.
My reason for adding fuel is that gasoline is one of the most scarce or expensive commodities in many countries. In countries such as Nigeria, the president is treating the economy as a personal asset, opting to refine crude abroad despite having local refineries, all to profit for himself and his family. This situation is common in various countries, leading to increasing fuel prices. Instead of purchasing a Christmas card for that friend with a car, consider giving them a fuel gift card. Alternatively, surprise them by taking them to a fuel station and covering the cost of their fuel as a thoughtful Christmas gift.
Pay a rent.
Pay a rent.
Many families and individuals are experiencing difficulties in meeting their house rent or mortgage payments this year. Instead of buying expensive home equipment for Christmas, why not give them an envelope with the money? If you're looking to buy an iPhone, upgraded earpods, a laptop, or a gift to impress, keep in mind that they already own a phone. This money in cash will go a long way. They can use it for other needs besides rent.
Appreciation call.
Many people long for what I refer to as an appreciation call from friends, family, or loved ones, but they rarely receive it due to our tendency to overlook the efforts our close ones put into our lives. Call someone if you don't have a physical Christmas gift and tell them how much you appreciate them, how important their efforts have been in your life, and how they've helped you through giving, mental health, or other challenges. Let them know that you appreciate them, remember their beneficial works, and make them feel seen and honored. You never know who is fighting a silent battle, but you can give them hope that they are still adding value to lives and will continue to push forward. You can also mentally give Christmas gifts.
Preach the gospel.
As a Christian, one of the best gifts I can give anyone around me is telling them about Jesus. Many of us tend to shy away from talking about our religion to our friends, even though we respect their privacy. However, some of us have never tried to preach to them. If they decline to listen, then that is fine. As a Christian, the Great Commission is part of the instructions Jesus gave to us, and I believe that after this life comes judgment. I want to meet my friends in heaven. Whatever you believe, and if you think it is the light, preaching to a friend might just lead them on the right path and change their lives forever. Remember, this costs nothing but your heart.
Travel ticket.
Many students have been abroad for the longest time, and, let me say, many people have been working abroad for a while, wishing they could spend the special moment of Christmas with their loved ones. However, due to financial constraints, they are unable to do so. Do you know a family member or friend who frequently mentions relatives who reside in a different country and wish to visit them? If you want to present them with a gift, consider giving them an open ticket to that country or location. One thing I have come to understand is that people tend to hide their struggles and just put on a cheerful face, especially in this social media era where appearance only counts for some people.
Personal care products.
Personal care products.
To ensure survival, most people have reduced the quality of the products they purchase. Gifting personal care products, like quality creams, bath gels, and soaps in bulk, can cut down on cost. One thing I've noticed about personal care products in the UK is that they may appear inexpensive, but with the constant addition of cents at the end of every item cost, the final bill of these items is expensive.
Water purification filters or tablets.
I myself buy water a lot, so if someone gifts me packs of water, I will appreciate it more than a mug because I have mugs at home, spoon sets, plates, etc., that we always gift repeatedly. Water purification filters help filter tap water. There is no country with excellent tap water, so filtering the water is a way of staying healthy for those who cannot afford to buy drinking water every week or in bulk. Be practical when you want to give. Ask yourself how this gift will be impactful in this person's life. Until that gift comes from a place of care, not a ritual, you have not yet fulfilled a need.
If you've read my travel post to Dumbarton Castle, you've probably seen what I looked like walking up the long stairs while enduring the rain. I wore this Just Pray Boho Rainbow Flowers Butterfly Long Sleeve Shirt.I like to wear casual shirts that are free and breathable yet cozy and that have unique designs. The material feels comfortable on the skin. The materials used to make the shirts are soft.
Do you recall my previous post where I wore a grey sweatshirt? It is from BoldOversize. The brand has this retro style with a bit of a contemporary twist. If you check out the website, you will see lots of cool vintage American fashion clothing that features old school cars and retro music, etc.
Do you recall my previous post where I wore a grey sweatshirt? It is from BoldOversize. The brand has this retro style with a bit of a contemporary twist. If you check out the website, you will see lots of cool vintage American fashion clothing that features old school cars and retro music, etc.
Today is Christmas Day, and I am particularly thankful. We always looked forward to Christmas as kids because my parents would buy new clothes and shoes for my siblings, and my mother's cooking was always excellent. Each time I talk about my mom's cooking, it's not just because she's my mom; she's a skilled cook. During family occasions, everyone wants her to lead or supervise the cooking. My mom is blessed with the gift of cooking.
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She would prepare delicious meals, and we would enjoy them as a family. We'd walk around the neighborhood to showcase our Christmas clothes and sometimes receive money gifts. Just like people celebrate Halloween, that's how we celebrate Christmas—going around and collecting gifts. It's funny to think about it now, but I love those memories. People would visit each other's houses and eat together. My mom usually prepares takeaway packs for anyone who visits us. I loved Christmas back then, but as I grew up and moved abroad, it wasn't the same. There were days I would just sleep all day during Christmas, like today, when I was at home on the couch feeling weak from the flu and cough.
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