JUSTICE FOR OCHANYA: My Fury, My Pain, and The Truth About Systemic Complicity in Child Rape.

The Stolen Life of Elizabeth Ochanya Ogbanje: When Family Becomes the Killer.

I am upset, yes. Angry, yes. Unhappy, YES. And the reason is simple: Ochanya's life was stolen for selfish reasons.

I couldn't sleep. At first, I refused to read the story; I didn’t want anything to disturb my peace. But when I heard the full, sickening details from my friend, my heart just sank.

So, Ochanya was a little girl who couldn't continue schooling in her community because the schools were on strike—the teachers weren't being paid. Her mother, desperate for her to get an education, sent her to her aunt’s house to stay and continue her schooling. The little girl was staying there and going to school. Her mum wanted to give this child an education at all costs for a better future, I guess, but things did not go as planned.

The auntie's son raped her. Ochanya reported the issue to the aunt, and the aunt simply scolded her son and that was it. Just scolded him. The son kept on raping this child. One day, his sister walked in on him and reported it to her father. The father, instead of reporting to the authorities—which his wife hadn't done either—started to rape the girl himself. Then, the father and son went on to rape her together.

Father and son, simultaneously, for FIVE YEARS.

The child kept getting sicker and sicker until she developed Vesicovaginal Fistula (VVF) and was taken to the hospital. THAT was when the whole rotten issue finally came to public eye. The hospital started to ask questions about how a child could have VVF. A month before she died, the girl told her mother that her uncle and his son had been raping her, and that they both did it at the same time—father and son. She was even interviewed, and the abuse was confirmed.

Yet, the court said they had little evidence at that time. So, they jailed the aunt for a pathetic five months. They couldn't find the son, and the husband went free.

The case came back to the public eye this year because the parents used social media as a tool to cry out, because how could they have peace? How could their daughter be killed by two grown adults—a father and a son—and they be walking freely in society? Now the case has been reopened, and the public is joining the police to look for the boy. These people sexually abused this 13-year-old child until she died.

The aunty, Felicia Ochiga Obuja, knew her husband and son were doing this, but kept silent. She wanted to protect her marriage and her son. She wanted to stay married regardless of what it took. These are the stupid ideologies sold to women: that marriage is everything. And they ran with it, covering evil. But thank God there is a God, and heaven is far from people who do these things.

I tell people one thing: a person who cheats lacks discipline. Cheating is just like taking cocaine; the person gets addicted and wants more. It starts from having sexual relations with the opposite sex, and then they want children, then they want more and more of this nonsense. But somehow people keep partners that cheat around their children and think their kids are safe. NO! Your kid is not safe around a cheating partner. All a cheater thinks of is sex, sex, sex. I'm in the medical line, and you hear different rubbish come out of people's mouths, especially men.

These men who killed the child are people known for cheating. She was related to them—she was family—but they took her life.

Imagine the daughter of that house reporting to the father and he did nothing. Now, think deep: Have the father and the brother also tried to sexually assault their own daughter? Because from the family dynamics, it appears this is an okay pattern to them.

In society today, men have caused a lot of atrocities. Not to say women aren't committing crimes, but the desires for men to marry younger, I mean girls who are not up to age... the desire to touch kids... it's crazy!

Do you know why some of these victims aren't getting justice? It’s because the people in power are equally guilty. It's because the policeman in the station has the same desires and is wishing to do that to another young girl. It's because the male figure handling the case sees it as "it’s just sex," and these issues keep happening.

There have been complaints of ladies being killed by policemen for not accepting to be in a relationship with them or wanting out. I mean, are these the people meant to protect us? Do you know how many families have daughters who have children for their own dads and brothers, and the mother will force them to lie and say the girl child was promiscuous?

Do you know how many girl children have died from abortions done at home by their own parents, because the parents were trying to bury secrets? And then you hear news like “the girl died from an abortion.” I have heard stories of girls saying they told their mother that their dads were sexually assaulting them, and the mother told them to their face, “It is your father. It is better he does it at home than go outside.” There have also been cases of girls going to their mothers to report their fathers and brothers, and the mother will shut them up, even starting to see the little girl as a threat and maltreating her.

See people are wicked!!!!

Ochanya’s life was taken. I wonder how she felt, being raped by a father and son for years at the same time—helpless, sad, wondering when this would end. Maybe she must have told her mum she wanted to come home, but the mother, wanting a better life for the child, would say, “Just finish your education and you can come home.” But she never made it home.

There was another case recently of a father raping his two daughters. I can't remember their ages, but both were under six. From the news, he even told his wife that she cannot report him, that he knows she will try to protect her marriage, and it was caught on record. When he was caught, he started to pretend. See, you men that desire children, you will go blind. Judgment will come upon you. You will meet your death early in your life. You think taking their childhood is okay?

Let's not even get started with diabolical religions that think a girl child can be married out from six years old and it is okay. Let's not even get started with religions that outwardly promote rape of children in the form of marriage. Let's not even get started with those religions that have men obsessed with children.

If there is one thing I have learned in my life, it's that some parents do not train men. Let me repeat it again: PARENTS DO NOT TRAIN MEN. Growing up as a child, I was taught how to sweep, how to sit, do this and that. I was practically told I needed to behave a certain way and carry myself a certain way. But I watched my cousins, brothers, and male friends not taught the same thing. They would play football in the field after school and be back home late, and you hear comments like, "They are boys, they will grow into men and be providers."

Men who were not taught to control their desires, who were not taught that no is no and silence doesn't mean yes... and if yes is not clear, it is no. Yes is not yes and even yes is not yes until confirmed yes. Boys grow into emotional thugs and ruin marriages left, right, and center. Men are the ones who mostly ruin marriages. Most of them lack discipline. They think life is all about their needs.

A lot of parents failed a lot of men. If you don't train them, society will put a leash on them, and it will not be the way you expect. Your child does wrong? Correct them and be strong with your correction. Stand your ground. Your child behaves badly, and you keep saying, "Honey, please stop." What nonsense joke of an upbringing are you doing? You are raising a child that will become a social thug. The foundation all starts from their upbringing. And I know people will still choose their path in life, but you need to train up a child in the way that he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Stop raping and sexually assaulting children, men. Stop desiring kids. Stop, stop, stop, stop! You will get caught. And those pick-me, senseless, and selfish women who cover this evil, you will also be caught too. You want to stay married while a child suffers? You want to answer "married woman" while a child’s future and life are being taken away?

You have a relative or child staying with you, or your own girl child, I don't care whether you trust your husband or friend or partner or boyfriend—ask that child, "Did this person touch any of your sexual parts? If they did, tell me." Grown-up women and girls are not safe in their homes. 9 out of 10 girl children have been molested; they are molested, and it's mostly from men.

No brutal laws have been passed. These are the laws that countries should pass! Drugs equal the death penalty in some countries, but when a child is violated, what do they do? 

There is something called jungle justice in Nigeria, which I do not support, but sometimes, with the way things happen, you just wish these types of men would get jungle justice. Because why would you and your son desire a little girl and rape her to death? WHY? 

Elizabeth Ochanya Ogbanje deserves justice.

• She was sent to stay with her uncle, Andrew Ogbuja (a polytechnic lecturer), and his son, Victor Ogbuja.

• Andrew Ogbuja was charged with rape and causing death but was later discharged and acquitted by a state high court due to insufficient evidence to prove the case beyond a reasonable doubt.

• Felicia Ochiga Obuja is the wife who covered what happened.

We want justice for this child. This could be any child. She deserves justice.

As recently as yesterday, the family, specifically Ochanya's brother, continued their active campaign for justice, urging the First Lady and the Inspector General of Police to bring the alleged rapists to justice and to declare the son, Victor Ogbuja, wanted.

So, before you take your child to a needless sleepover, before you send them to that aunt’s house for the holidays, before you trust your child into another person’s hands—pause and think.

When your child returns from school, ASK THEM QUESTIONS about their teachers and their environment.

Stop trusting people blindly with your children. Stop endangering their lives by placing them carelessly in the hands of relatives, nannies, or friends. Take responsibility for your child’s well-being. Life can be hard, and things might not turn out the way you planned or expected. Always ask yourself this question: while aiming to afford that child a better life, are you truly providing them with a better life by sending them out to stay with another person, or are you exposing them to a potential lifetime of pain?

And if you, who are meant to be their guardian, choose to harm or neglect them, know this: God will expose you, and judgment will come to your doorstep.

For those of you who are enablers, who know a family member has an issue or has done evil, but you stand by them, claiming family is everything while another person's life has been taken, I have nothing to say to you.

Now, to women covering these acts in their home, you are wicked and will be exposed! And I pray that anyone reading this post and involved in such an act will be caught, and judgment will take its course in your life. Amen.