Saturday, July 4, 2026

How Not To Be Stupid by Igor Sibaldi

The Day I Realized I Was Coded to Be Stupid (According to Igor Sibaldi)

Let’s play a quick, uncomfortable game. Think of the last time you saw a wildly controversial post online. Did you instantly feel a surge of opinion? Did you instinctively know exactly which side you were on, using words you’ve read a thousand times before?

We like to think those thoughts are ours. We like to believe our rage, our validation, and our tastes are entirely self-authored. But what if they aren’t? What if your mind is just frozen in place, renting out space to a collective script?

I recently watched an interview with the philosopher and theologian Igor Sibaldi, which completely altered how I view my own brain. It forced me to pick up his book, How Not to Be Stupid: The Transformative Power of Independent Thinking.

Sibaldi doesn’t view "stupidity" as a low IQ score or a lack of education. He looks at the Latin root: stupidus—which means to freeze, to be stunned, or to come to a dead halt. Stupidity, in his eyes, is the psychological block that happens when you stop thinking for yourself and let society, habits, or fear pull you onto autopilot because conformity feels safer than standing alone.

He maps this out through 12 distinct psychological functions of the self (covering how we handle authority, communication, wealth, and our past). He argues that we might be brilliant in one function, but completely paralyzed, or "stupid," in another.

Enter the Algorithmic Herd

Reading his breakdown of these 12 functions made me look directly at our modern digital landscape. Look at social media algorithms. They are essentially automated conformity engines. They track our biases, feed us exactly what we want to hear, and reward us with dopamine when we echo the prevailing sentiment of our chosen "tribe."

By Sibaldi’s definition, algorithms are training us to be profoundly stupid. They invite us to freeze our critical faculties, stop questioning why we believe what we believe, and coast on a borrowed collective consciousness.

This directly mirrors what the 19th-century philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche warned us about when he wrote about the "Herd Mentality." Nietzsche argued that society conditions individuals to fear standing out, replacing true personal virtue with a safe, obedient group morality. When you combine Sibaldi’s 12 functions with Nietzsche’s herd, you get the modern internet: millions of people trapped in an echo chamber, terrified of the social death that comes with independent thought, mistaking algorithmic obedience for personal perspective.

Where Sibaldi and I Part Ways

Sibaldi’s interview and his book gave me a massive paradigm shift. It made me realize how often I speak in phrases I didn't invent and defend ideas I haven't actually pressure-tested. It taught me that real intelligence isn't about knowing the answers; it’s about having the raw courage to stay in motion when everyone else freezes.

But here is where I disagree with him. Sibaldi implies that breaking free from these 12 blocks is a purely intellectual act of will—a personal hygiene of the mind where you choose to disobey the collective.

I think he underestimates the sheer weight of modern systemic design. It’s easy to say "stop being a person from a breeding farm" (as he bluntly calls it), but when our economic livelihood, our social circles, and our mental health loops are entirely hardwired into platforms designed to keep us frozen, waking up isn’t just a philosophical choice. It’s an exhausting, daily psychological war against an infrastructure designed to keep us asleep. Disobedience doesn't just take clarity; it takes an immense amount of emotional resilience that a lot of people simply don't have the bandwidth to afford.

Your Turn: Let's Break the Script

The entire focus of this post is to understand perspective. I want us to step outside the usual algorithmic scripts. Let's make this comment section a space of actual, unpredictable human thought.

Be completely honest with yourself for a moment:

  1. In which of your daily habits, beliefs, or digital spaces do you feel your mind is completely on autopilot?

  2. Do you agree with Sibaldi that conformity is a form of self-inflicted stupidity, or do you think finding safety in the "herd" is just a necessary human survival mechanism?

Look inward before you reply. Don’t tell me what you think you should say. Tell me how you actually feel. Are you truly thinking your own thoughts right now? Let's talk in the comments.

To hear the concepts straight from the source, check out this Igor Sibaldi Podcast Interview, where he introduces the 12 functions of the ego and explains how to unblock the areas where your personal growth has frozen. 

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    1. That is an interesting choice of audience because the workplace is one of the places where habits and shared thinking can become very strong. We often learn the language, routines, and unwritten rules of a workplace so well that we stop noticing how much they shape the way we see things.

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  2. Parece un libro interesante. Te mando un beso y te deseo un lindo fin de semana.

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    1. You're right, Philip. Breaking rules is rarely as simple as just deciding to do it. Many rules are not written down; they are connected to belonging, expectations, and the fear of becoming the person who stands apart.

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  4. Melody, I haven't read this book and don't know anything about the author. My opinion may differ from yours.

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    1. Hi Irina. I appreciate that honesty, because that is actually very much in the spirit of the discussion. We don't have to begin with agreement to have a meaningful conversation. Sometimes the most valuable reflections come from someone approaching an idea from a different angle. Independent thinking is not about arriving at the same conclusion; it is about being willing to examine, question, and listen.

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    1. Thank you, Andréja. Wishing you a wonderful weekend too.

      It is always lovely when a discussion brings people together, even around ideas that challenge us.

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  6. Melody, this sounds like such an amazing group.
    I agree with everything that the writer has written. The algorithms are making us more close minded.
    Herd mentality has never been stronger.... unfortunately.

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    1. Thank you, Ivana. I think many of us can feel that tension today. Algorithms can create very narrow windows into the world, showing us more of what confirms what we already believe and less of what challenges us. At the same time, I wonder if the technology is only amplifying something that has always been part of human nature. People have always searched for belonging and reassurance; the difference now is that the process is faster and more visible. Perhaps the real challenge is not avoiding every influence, because that is almost impossible, but keeping the curiosity to ask, “Why do I believe this?” before we decide, defend, or dismiss. Do you think people are becoming more closed-minded because of algorithms, or are algorithms simply revealing a tendency that was already there?

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    2. I think this tendency always existed and was in human nature, but the algorithms have made it worse and amplified it.

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  7. I do notice that I'm often on autopilot. Sometimes I speak with people and I don't even remember who they are. I feel so bad about it. They know so much about me and I'm sure we talked often but I don't remember. In social situations I often go on autopilot.

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    1. I think many people will recognise what you describe. We often move through familiar situations using patterns we have built over years, and sometimes our attention is somewhere else even while we are physically present. What I find interesting is that you notice it. That awareness itself means you are not completely lost in the autopilot; there is a part of you observing and questioning it. Perhaps the goal is not to eliminate autopilot altogether, because routines also help us function, but to become more present in the moments that truly matter. Sometimes a small pause, a genuine question, or simply looking at someone with full attention can bring us back.

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    2. I think that sometimes my social battery just runs out. At the end of the day, there is a limited amount of meaningful social interactions we can make.

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    3. Hi Ivana, I think you make a very good point. Our energy and attention are limited, and even people who enjoy connecting with others can reach a point where their social battery feels drained. I also think there is a difference between not caring and simply not having the capacity to be fully present all the time. Being aware of that can help us find a balance, allowing ourselves time to recharge while still making space for the people and conversations that matter most.

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  8. That's really an interesting book, Melody. Thanks for sharing Sinibaldi's point of view about stupidity. Actually we've to avoid the "psychological block" which you mentioned. Never stop thinking. And most importantly, in my opinion, we haven't to take averything for granted. We have to be curious. I will check out Igor Sibaldi Podcast Interview.

    Greetings from Italy ☀

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    1. Thank you for sharing this perspective. I really like your point about curiosity because I think it is one of the best ways to keep the mind moving. Taking things for granted is often where we stop looking closely. Curiosity keeps a small opening for change. It allows us to ask questions without feeling that we are losing something by doing so.

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  9. My autopilot shows up mostly when I read certain topics online. Sometimes I don’t even need to finish the text before I notice that I already have a reaction ready, a defensive attitude, or even a phrase I’ve heard too many times before. That makes me uncomfortable, because it forces me to ask myself whether I am really thinking, or simply responding from somewhere I have been trained to respond from. It also happens to me with some daily routines: repeating schedules, gestures, small habits, and even ways of speaking without stopping to check whether they are still truly mine, or whether I have simply left them running in the background. As for what Sibaldi says, I wouldn’t dare call conformity simply stupidity. There is some comfort in it, of course, and also a certain refusal to think for oneself, but very often the herd is not just mental laziness; it is also shelter. Some people cling to the group because they are tired, because they are afraid, because they don’t want to be left alone, or because they simply cannot afford another battle. If I am honest right now, I would say that thinking for oneself is necessary, but it is also exhausting. So perhaps the first step is not to suddenly believe we are free, but to notice when we are repeating something we are not even sure we ever chose. A hug.

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    1. Angelo, thank you for taking time to leave a comment. I think you captured one of the most difficult parts of this whole idea: the fact that autopilot is not always a sign of laziness or lack of intelligence. Sometimes it is simply the mind trying to protect us, conserve energy, and move through a complicated world. I especially like your point that conformity can also be shelter. It is easy to judge from the outside, but belonging has always been a powerful human need. The question becomes less “How do we escape the herd?” and more “Can we still hear our own thoughts while we are part of it?” That moment when we catch ourselves having a reaction before we have even finished reading is such an interesting one. Maybe that small pause is where independent thinking begins.
      I wonder if the hardest part is not noticing when we repeat someone else’s ideas but accepting that even our most personal beliefs may need to be examined from time to time.

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  10. Not the point but, oh, you can change the language in the subtitles. I had no idea. I love the Italian language, was nice to "hear" in the background.
    And nice to know what stupidity actually means.
    I always try to be open minded, listen to other people´s opinions but often find it difficult to say something if my thoughts and views differ. You have to have a feeling who can take it and I learned my Brother is not one of them... Reckon stupid in that sense fits sadly for him - and many others. So I rather tend to keep my thoughts for myself, but at least I have them...

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    1. I think you touched on something very human here. Having your own thoughts is one thing, but expressing them in a way that keeps a conversation alive is another skill altogether. Being open-minded does not always mean saying everything we think. Sometimes wisdom is knowing when a conversation is truly a conversation and when the other person is only looking for agreement. Silence can also be a conscious choice, not a sign that we have stopped thinking. At the same time, keeping our thoughts only to ourselves can become its own kind of limitation. The interesting challenge is finding the people and the moments where honest disagreement can exist without becoming a battle. Perhaps independent thinking is not only about having different views, but also learning how to share them with enough patience that others can actually hear them.

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  11. Interesting Melody. The Herd effect is a weird one and I don't know why people can't think for themselves and not always agree with other people, we each have a mind of our own and common sense should prevail.
    Take care.

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    1. Thank you, Margaret. Sometimes people agree with others because they have not examined the issue, but sometimes it is also because belonging, harmony, and avoiding conflict are powerful human instincts. We are social creatures, and being part of a group has always been important for survival. Even common sense is shaped by our experiences and surroundings.

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  12. It is easy to parrot what we've heard a hundred times before, and sometimes it's our default position when too tired or distracted to think and analyse. It is better by far to think and consider and then not to voice an opinion unless we are sure it is truly what we believe.

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    1. Sometimes repeating familiar ideas is not because we lack the ability to think, but because the mind naturally reaches for what is already known, especially when we are tired or overwhelmed. At the same time, I wonder if waiting until we are completely sure can sometimes keep us from having valuable conversations. Many of our beliefs become clearer when we are willing to discuss them and let them be challenged.

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  13. Extremely interesting. I have very strong opinions. It amazes me that things in America, are done a certain way because " it's always been that way". Well, time to change them, I say! How popular is it to express this? Not very. I honestly talk back to the TV and the news on my phone every day. The phone is listening, I know!

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    1. Having strong opinions is not necessarily the problem. In many ways, progress has always depended on people being willing to ask uncomfortable questions. The interesting part is whether we are equally willing to examine our own opinions with the same energy we use to challenge others. Maybe the real challenge today is not just resisting what we are told, but noticing when we have become certain too quickly.

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  14. Hay cosas que nos las repiten hasta la saciedad y de tanto repetírnoslas aun siendo mentira creemos que es cierta y de esa forma nos intentan formar parte de un rebaño.

    Saludos.

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    1. The difficult part of independent thinking is that it asks us to question both the voices around us and the voices inside our own minds.

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  15. Boa noite minha querida irmã Melody. Isso acontece muito no Instagram. Se você vê, um determinado assunto, ele passa te enviar vídeos com.esse tema. Uma excelente noite, na Grã-Bretanha, bom sábado, bom final de semana e um grande abraço do seu irmão em Cristo Jesus, Evangelista João Luiz.

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    1. Good evening, João. You are right that these platforms can quickly create a pattern around what captures our attention. Once we engage with a topic, we often begin seeing more and more of the same kind of content, which can make one perspective feel much larger than it really is. Thank you.

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  16. Melody, thank you so much for this post! It's something that is needed to be said, heard and understood. One thing we stressed when raising our children was asking questions and to think about the answers they were given. They are now adults with adult children of their own. Our grandchildren were raised to be thinkers rather than "followers" of whatever was the latest thing going. Your section here on algorithms really has me thinking about people I follow on YouTube...why do I follow them...is it because they cause me to think? Is it because they share my same values? I have some pondering to do of my own. Thanks, Friend. As for your second question...I do believe that a lot of our society has been sucked into the "herd mentality" because it relieves them of the responsibility of having to think. I definitely disagree with Sibaldi when it comes to his belief that breaking away from the 12 blocks he's outlined and it being a purely intellectual act of the will. I believe that in order to break away, we first need to realize the need to do so, but coming away from something that has so ingrained our society from every avenue of our lives will take God's strength, not just will power...basically realizing who God is (Holy) and who we are sinners saved by His grace) is always a good place to start. xx

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    1. I really appreciate the point you made about teaching children to ask questions rather than simply accept answers. That habit of curiosity is one of the strongest foundations for independent thinking. I also found your question about YouTube very interesting: “Why do I follow them?” That is such a simple question, but it can reveal a lot. Sometimes we follow people because they challenge us, sometimes because they comfort us, and sometimes because they confirm what we already believe. Not all of those are wrong, but noticing the difference is important. I think you also raise a deeper point about change. Recognizing that we are influenced is one thing; actually transforming those patterns is another. Whether someone sees that transformation as coming through faith, reflection, discipline, or a combination of these, it often requires something deeper than simply deciding to change overnight. Perhaps the real question is not whether we are influenced, because we all are, but whether we are becoming more aware of what we allow to shape us.

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  17. Hello,
    Interesting book and review. I would say I do not follow the herd, I do feel I am on autopilot, just making sure my hubby is ok. Have a great weekend.

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    1. Looking after a loved one can become such a natural rhythm that we do not always notice how much of our own attention is devoted to it. There is something beautiful in that kind of commitment, but it is also worth asking whether we leave enough space to check in with ourselves.

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  18. Lo considero muy interesante, un tema que todos alguna vez hemos pasado por esto, hemos salido como buenamente supimos pero teniendo un enfoque así ayuda mucho a ver las cosas desde otra perspectiva.
    Feliz fin de semana.
    Saludos.

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    1. Thank you, José. I think that is exactly why this topic feels so familiar: we all experience moments when we move through life by habit, and moments when we stop and look more closely at how we are thinking. Sometimes a new perspective does not give us completely new answers, but it helps us ask better questions. That alone can change the way we approach our choices, reactions, and relationships. Perhaps the most interesting part is that independent thinking is not something we achieve once and keep forever. It is something we practice whenever we are willing to look again.

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  19. A very interesting topic! I’ve reflected on this, and yes—for some time now, I’ve increasingly been operating on autopilot, though only in certain areas.
    I have firm views and principles of my own that I’m capable of standing up for. But—and here I agree with you—there are situations where, for the sake of safety, peace of mind, or relationships, I hide my true personality. I don’t change for my own sake, but the people around me don’t get to see the real me.
    It’s not a comfortable feeling, but sometimes there’s no other way.
    Great post!

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    1. Thank you. I think many people will recognise what you describe, even if they rarely say it out loud. What struck me most was the difference you made between changing who you are and simply choosing not to reveal every part of yourself. Those are not necessarily the same thing. Sometimes discretion is wisdom, not conformity. The harder question is knowing where that line is. If we hide parts of ourselves too often, does it protect our peace, or does it slowly become our new normal?

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  20. Interesting post.
    I try to think independently – I think I have my own algorithms, not dictated by other people. There are many issues and topics where I have a different opinion than those around me.
    Melody, I wish you a happy Sunday!

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    1. Perhaps the real challenge is not avoiding all outside influence, but becoming aware of which influences we have consciously chosen and which ones have quietly shaped us.

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  21. Melody, que reflexão instigante. Enquanto lia, fiquei pensando que talvez a maior liberdade não seja ter opiniões diferentes, mas conservar a capacidade de duvidar até das próprias certezas. Os algoritmos realmente nos oferecem o conforto de pertencer, e esse conforto, muitas vezes, anestesia a curiosidade.

    Acredito que o ser humano sempre viveu entre duas necessidades: a de fazer parte do grupo e a de encontrar a própria voz. O desafio está em não permitir que a primeira silencie a segunda. Pensar por conta própria exige coragem, mas também humildade para reconhecer que nenhuma ideia merece ser imune ao questionamento, nem mesmo as nossas.

    Obrigado por compartilhar uma leitura que nos convida menos a responder e mais a refletir. Em tempos de opiniões instantâneas, isso já é um gesto raro.

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    1. Daniel, I really like the way you described that balance between belonging and finding our own voice. I think that tension has always been part of being human. We need others, yet we also need enough inner space to hear our own thoughts. Your point about doubting our own certainties is especially powerful. It is often easier to question someone else’s beliefs than to gently examine our own. Sometimes the beliefs we hold most tightly are the ones we have spent the least time revisiting. I also agree that belonging can be comforting, but comfort can sometimes make us stop exploring. The challenge is not to reject the group, but to remain awake while being part of it.

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  22. hey stunning young lady and dear Melody
    at this part of my age when i look back i hardly find myself part of herd . even if i belong to conservative country .i can say from the bottom of my heart that i am living life what i wanted to live as plan b . plan a was living with my parents and having career . circumstances did not allow it . and i got married to a man i felt attracted as little girl many years ago . plan b for me is staying away from crowed men particularly who were my phobia back then . i have peace of mind thankfully because i never hurt anyone nor thought bad of anyone . and i can't take credit because it is my manufacturing fault or default mode whatever you call it .
    people close to me know that i am in no means like a traditional woman .
    thanks to years of meditation i can relate to today's topic and i agree to it completely
    love and best wishes !

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    1. What stands out to me is not whether your life followed Plan A or Plan B, but that you have reflected on both rather than simply accepting whichever path unfolded. That willingness to examine your own story is already different from merely drifting through it. At the same time, independence is not only measured by how differently we live from others. Sometimes it is measured by whether we continue questioning the stories we tell about ourselves, even the ones that have brought us peace. A life can be unconventional and still contain assumptions that have become so familiar we no longer notice them. You mention meditation, and perhaps that is where Sibaldi's idea becomes especially interesting. If meditation teaches us to observe thoughts without immediately identifying with them, then it raises a deeper question: who are we when even our most cherished self-descriptions are held lightly rather than defended? Do you think the greatest freedom comes from living differently than the crowd, or from remaining able to question even the identity you have built over a lifetime?

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  23. i forgot to mention i don't go to any social plate form except my blog

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    1. That already places you outside the most common channels where attention is continuously shaped by external flow, but it does not automatically place you outside influence itself. Influence has many quieter forms, and not all of them require a platform. What do you think has the strongest influence on your thinking now, if most external platforms are already out of the picture?

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  24. This sounds like a really interesting book, and that first question at the end of the post is very thought-provoking!

    Lucy Mary

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    1. When a question stays with you, what usually determines whether you pursue it further or let it dissolve back into routine thought? Thank you the comment, Lucy

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  25. A book I'll have to add to my reading list. One of the issues with today's society is that people do not think for themselves. It is easier to follow the herd, I guess. Maybe they are afraid of making a decision that they feel could be outside the norm and is safer to just agree and nod your head. That's not the way I would like to live my life. We have brains so we can think for ourselves no matter what others think. Good post, Melody.

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    1. Thanks for the comment, Bill. I agree with you but the idea that “people do not think for themselves” is often said with confidence, but it is worth asking what we are comparing it against. Independent thought is rarely a permanent state; it appears in moments, then gives way to habit, language, and repetition again. Following the herd can be fear, but it can also be economy of effort, shared learning, or simply the default way humans coordinate reality. The more difficult question is not whether people conform, but whether they ever return to examine what they have accepted after the fact. Living by one’s own mind is less about never agreeing with others and more about being willing to reopen what once felt settled. That is where most thinking quietly stops, not in agreement itself, but in the refusal to revisit it.

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  26. Dear Melody, that's certainly a topic that would require a multi-page essay to answer. But let me try to get to the point: Regarding question number 1) I suppose I also sometimes run on autopilot. But I've never been a "herd animal"; apparently, I had a critical mind even as a child. That sometimes made things difficult for my parents, and for me as well. Someone who questions everything is a difficult student, a difficult employee, and difficult to interact with.

    People who can't or won't adapt well because their critical mind questions everything can end up at the very top or at the very bottom—depending on whether they share a groundbreaking insight and receive recognition, perhaps even fame and great wealth, or whether they withdraw from society, end up in the gutter, or become hermits.

    But I also wanted to break out of these categories. I think you can be a critical thinker and sometimes ask difficult questions, but still find a suitable place in the middle of society (or in the hearts of certain people - a few hand-picked people as your closest confidants.).

    That was basically my answer to your second question – I actually think it's "stupid" not to question anything, but I also think it's unhealthy to do it constantly. It's nice to interact with people who are a good fit for you – but to know who's a good fit, it's important to look closely and take a sharp, critical look.

    All the best from Austria 🤗.
    Traude
    https://rostrose.blogspot.com/2026/06/reisebericht-2025-von-ahornblattern-und.html

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    1. I really enjoyed reading your thoughts, especially the part about finding a place in the middle. I think that’s such an important point because independent thinking doesn’t have to mean always being against something or standing apart from everyone else. Sometimes people who question everything are seen as difficult, but those same people are often the ones who notice things others overlook. The challenge is learning when to push, when to listen, and when to simply let things be. I also agree that constantly questioning everything can become exhausting. A curious mind still needs connection and peace. Here is the question for you: do you think your critical nature was something you were born with, or do you think life experiences made it stronger over time?

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  27. Querida y bella Melody, me encantan tus post, siempre son muy interesantes.
    Eres bella por fuera y mas por dentro, es un honor para mi que estés presente.
    Que pases un hermoso y feliz fin de semana
    Besitos y te dejo todo mi cariño bella amiga

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  28. 🌞❄️💙✨🌞💐🦋💖🫂⚜🌺🌺🌺
    Good morning, dear Melody. Thank you for sharing this reflection. It's a complex topic and truly thought-provoking. I think we all alternate between moments of critical thinking and others where, without realizing it, we just go with the flow.
    Many hugs to you 🌞💐🦋💖🫂⚜🌺🌺🌺

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    1. What matters then is not eliminating the moments of flow, but noticing whether they are ever questioned afterward. The deeper distinction is not between thinking and autopilot, but between forgetting that we have switched between them and remembering that we can return.

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  29. How not to be Stupid sounds like a book I should buy a few extra copies for and give them to select people. Have a lovely week.

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    1. Gifting a book like that only really matters if the person receiving it is willing to be unsettled by it, not just affirmed. Otherwise it becomes another object that reinforces existing certainty rather than opening it. The harder part is that “not being stupid” is rarely something one can hand to someone else. It tends to work only when the reader is willing to question the very habits that feel most natural to them.

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  30. This sounds like something I would be really interested in reading too. We all sometimes react and influenced by mass media, either we like it or not, just happened. But we all learn along the way...

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    1. Influence from mass media is almost unavoidable, but awareness of it changes the experience entirely. The difference lies not in whether we are affected, but in whether we ever pause to notice how that influence enters our thinking.

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  31. An interesting post I had to think about " just frozen in place, renting out space to a collective script" Yeah maybe we do although this will be partially unconscious so it's good you bring it up I think especially media like facebook will bring it forwards I do disagree "conformity is a form of self-inflicted stupidity" We are highly social creatures so it is partly an instinct and also it is what we have been trained to do by our parents and society. Also, it is a learning process to engage in critical thinking and to stand up for what you believe in and stay in your core. Great post

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    1. What you point to is important: much of what looks like conformity is closer to social learning than intellectual failure. Human beings are shaped first through imitation, and only later, if at all, through deliberate separation from it. In that sense, belonging is not a mistake in the system, but part of how the system was designed to form us. Where Sibaldi’s framing becomes useful is not in denying that instinct, but in asking when it stops being instinct and becomes unexamined repetition. Social nature explains why we align; it does not automatically explain why we never reassess that alignment once it is formed. The more subtle challenge is that critical thinking is not a permanent trait but a practice that fades when not used. Most people do not abandon independent thought; they simply stop renewing it. At what point do you think a learned social pattern stops being healthy adaptation and starts becoming something we no longer notice at all

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  32. Funciono en piloto automático constantemente.
    La rutina es mi mejor amiga... es fruto de muchos años viviendo, experimentando, sufriendo y también gozando.
    Me he construido mi rutina y dentro de ella funciono en piloto automático.

    No formo parte de ningún rebaño políticamente correcto.
    Me asquea esa gente, o sea, me asquea la mayoría la sociedad.
    Soy un misántropo cada vez más intenso.
    No creo casi nada de lo que veo en prensa (he trabajado mucho tiempo en los engranajes del poder y sé que todo lo que leemos está manipulado, la prensa es esclava de las subvenciones que recibe), ni en televisión, ni en la radio, tampoco de tertulianos ni de redes sociales.

    Me alejo de todos para poder respirar.

    Saludos.

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    1. Routine can be a form of earned structure rather than blind repetition. After years of experience, it often becomes a way of conserving attention for what still matters. In that sense, autopilot is not always absence of thought, sometimes it is the residue of long reflection. Where it becomes worth examining is not the routine itself, but whether anything can still interrupt it. A settled life can be wise, but it can also quietly close the door to new correction without noticing it has done so. The sharper part of what you describe is not disbelief in institutions, but the turning away from people. Once distrust becomes total, it no longer distinguishes between what is flawed and what might still be true. At that point, everything becomes confirmation of distance. Breathing space is necessary, but so is the possibility that not everything outside that space is identical in character. If all sources are treated as equally compromised, then judgment stops evaluating and starts only rejecting. The question worth holding is this: does distance give you clearer sight, or does it slowly remove the need to look at anything closely at all

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  33. Its difficult living in a world of so much info in ones's face
    But yes one can still have an opinion that is personal


    Much love

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    1. You’re right, there is a huge amount of information coming at us all the time, and sometimes the hardest part is not finding information but knowing what deserves our attention.

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  34. Wow Melody. This is such an in-depth post. I feel that I would need to read the book to fully understand and give thought to the topic. However, right now I tend to think that much of what I do and think is autopilot. For example, I have developed some belief systems over the years and based on those belief systems I react on what I guess is autopilot. You have made me think and perhaps what to read the book.

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    1. It is often those settled belief systems that feel most like “ourselves,” simply because they have been repeated for so long. Autopilot is rarely obvious while it is happening; it usually only becomes visible when something interrupts it.

      What is interesting in what you describe is not that you have patterns, but that you can already see them as patterns. That small distance between action and awareness is where change tends to begin. The question the book seems to press on is not whether we operate on autopilot, but whether we ever stop long enough to question who is doing the steering when we do. What do you think would happen if one of your long-held beliefs no longer felt automatic, but had to be chosen again each time?

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  35. This book is very interesting, I'd like to read this.

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    1. Curiosity is often the right starting point for this kind of book, especially when it stirs interest before full understanding arrives. What tends to matter is not only reading it, but noticing what in you reacts while reading. The book becomes more useful when it stops being information and starts becoming a mirror.

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  36. Excellent read.. sounds like a book many could benefit from.

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    1. Hi Hena. A book like this is only useful if it moves from something we agree with to something that unsettles us. Agreement is the easiest response, but it is also the one that changes the least. The real question is whether it leaves anything behind in thought once the reading is done.

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  37. Thankfully I have never been a herd follower and my husband and son are the same. Thank you for sharing this very interesting book Melody and one I would like to read. It puts us in difficult positions at times but we all have our beliefs, will listen to other opinions and hopefully they will listen to ours. Polite discourse should be welcomed. Unfortunately that is not always the case. I often find there are those driven by fear.

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    1. It is easy to say we are not part of a herd, but the more difficult question is where agreement becomes habit rather than choice. Even independent minds can settle into familiar positions that feel like clarity simply because they are rarely disturbed.

      You point to something important in mentioning listening and exchange. Dialogue only stays alive when it includes the possibility of being changed, not just being heard. Without that, it becomes two parallel certainties passing each other without contact. Fear does often sit beneath rigid thinking, but so does comfort. Sometimes people defend ideas not because they are threatened, but because they have not revisited them in a long time. What would change in a conversation if both sides agreed in advance that being changed was not a loss, but part of the exchange itself

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  38. I am sometimes on autopilot but almost always find my own way, my own answers, my own directives without relying on others to provide that for me. I am going to look for the book. Diana

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    1. Hi, Nana. There is value in noticing when habit takes over and still choosing to correct your course without outsourcing that judgment. Many people drift without ever realizing it, so that awareness already sets a different standard.

      What becomes interesting is not only that you find your own answers, but how you know they are truly your own and not just familiar patterns repeating in new clothes. That is often where the deeper work begins.

      When you read the book, it may challenge the sense of certainty you describe in a useful way. What do you think changes when your “own way” is tested rather than simply followed?

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  39. This was such a thought-provoking read. I really liked how you didn't just summarize the book, but also reflected on how its ideas relate to social media, algorithms, and independent thinking today. Your point that thinking for ourselves requires not only courage but also emotional resilience really resonated with me. It definitely gave me something to reflect on.

    Kisses

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    1. Thank you so much, Joanna. I'm really glad that part resonated with you because that's where I found myself disagreeing with Sibaldi a little. It's one thing to say, "Think for yourself," but it's another to do it when the cost might be criticism, exclusion, or simply feeling like you're standing alone. I also think social media has made that balancing act much harder than it used to be. Sometimes the hardest person to disagree with isn't everyone else, it's ourselves. I'm curious, has there ever been a belief you were completely certain about that you later changed your mind on? Those moments fascinate me because they often teach us more than being right ever does.

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  40. A very interesting and thought-provoking article. Indeed, I increasingly find myself being told not only by algorithms but also by ways of looking at things. On the other hand, I'm not sure that every form of conformism is a bad thing—sometimes it's simply a way of functioning in society. Perhaps the most important thing is to stop from time to time and honestly ask ourselves if a given opinion is truly our own. Have a nice day!
    Angelika

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    1. Thank you, Angelika. I think you touched on one of the most interesting tensions in this topic. Conformity is not always a weakness; society could hardly function without some shared ways of thinking, traditions, and agreements. The question, perhaps, is not whether we conform, but whether we are still conscious when we do. There is a difference between choosing to follow a shared value and simply inheriting a belief because it has always been there. I like your point about stopping from time to time and asking if an opinion is truly our own. That pause may be where independent thinking begins. Have you ever had a moment when you realised that an opinion you strongly held was actually something you had absorbed from your surroundings rather than something you had fully examined yourself?

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  41. What a thought provoking post and book! I might have to give it a listen. I'm not a fan of social media, all too often I see the same comments (usually negative) over and over again in reaction to a post. I often wonder if all those people really think that way or if it is indeed herd mentality. Then again, if I'm really being honest, in person, I'll sometimes keep quiet or agree with something I don't truly believe just to keep the peace...

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    1. Thank you. Many people can relate to that. It can be difficult to speak up, whether online or in person, and I found the book gave me a lot to think about. I hold certain beliefs that I feel strongly about, and I often speak out in various situations to share my perspective. However, I’ve been wondering lately: are these decisions truly my own? I haven't quite figured out the answer to that question yet. I hope you enjoy these thoughts if you decide to listen.

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  42. This sounds like such an interesting read. There are a lot of people who prefer to go along with the herd, because it is easier than having to stand out. Unfortunately, that means a lot of really harmful narratives and opinions are passed off as "normal" and therefore acceptable, when the reality is very different.

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    1. I agree with you; I grew up thinking that everyone who smokes has a very bad character instead of simply a bad habit. However, I had that perspective corrected when I was in Ukraine and realized that I had to look deeper and consider how that specific pathway was formed in the first place.

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  43. На мой взгляд тема интересная. Попробую ответить на вопросы, хотя книгу я не читала, а прочла только твоё описание.

    In which of your daily habits, beliefs, or digital spaces do you feel your mind is completely on autopilot?
    Автопилот совсем не плохо, иногда это состояние помогает экономить энергию. Например, в рутинных делах, режиме дня и привычках. Не нужно думать, анализировать, нужно просто выполнять - соблюдать режим дня, гигиену, чистоту и порядок вокруг себя. Но в некоторых вопросах я стараюсь анализировать процессы, мысли, последствия, чтобы выбрать - насколько подходит то или иное для меня лично, насколько совпадает с моими принципами и ценностями в жизни. Из-за этого муж часто называет меня бунтаркой :)))

    Do you agree with Sibaldi that conformity is a form of self-inflicted stupidity, or do you think finding safety in the "herd" is just a necessary human survival mechanism?
    Про конформизм - я не согласна с автором, часто ты вынужден в чём-то быть как все, чтобы не быть отверженным. Например, необходимо соблюдать законы и правила, которые приняты в обществе, где ты существуешь. Зачем идти против них, если уже все договорились, что так будет правильно?
    А вот информацию я предпочитаю получать без комментариев "специалистов", без эмоций, на "холодную голову", и уже потом пытаться оценить её самостоятельно.

    MELODY, спасибо, ты поднимаешь интересные темы.

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