Friday, December 26, 2025

A Boxing Day That Did Not Go as Planned


At this point, I honestly felt worn out. It felt as if even Google Maps had gone on holiday. I am still processing all the details, but this is what happened today, the day after Christmas.

My partner and I had a disagreement on Christmas morning; you can read about it here. We talked it through late at night and agreed it should not have gone that way. We slept calmly and woke up feeling at peace, ready to embrace the day. With most places closed on the 25th of December, our plan was simple: spend time in nature. We wanted to visit the Cairngorms National Park, breathe deeply, relax, and enjoy the outdoors.

As soon as we woke up, my partner started making the bed, and I joined him. It felt like a small but meaningful reset. We got dressed, filled the car with fuel, and stopped at McDonald’s for breakfast around 10:45 a.m., and then we set off.

The drive was long, about an hour and a half. We kept going, trusting the photos we had seen online and hoping the place would be worth it. Eventually, we saw a signpost for the location. That is where the confusion began. There was nowhere to properly park, no clear entrance, and no visible walking path. Google Maps insisted we had arrived, but all we could see was thick forest and fenced land. It did not match what we had seen online, which showed trails, a castle, and accessible areas.

We drove back and forth several times, trying to make sense of it. By then, I was already feeling frustrated. We reset the map and entered the location again, but it redirected us to a place we had already visited before. That confirmed the directions were wrong.

When we stopped to ask a lovely elderly man for help, he explained that the park is enormous and that you cannot simply enter its general name into the map. You need to search for a specific landmark inside or near the park, such as a castle or trail. The route suggested from where we were would have taken another two and a half hours. At that point, I knew it was not realistic. Reluctantly, I told my partner we should not continue.

We tried once more by driving back to the original signpost to look for another access point, but again, there was nowhere to park and no clear way in. Eventually, we realised we had reached the correct area but from the wrong side. The map had taken us through a back route that was inaccessible to visitors.

On our way back, we decided to try another place, the Scottish Wildlife Trust at Loch of the Lowes. The map showed it was open, and it was only about 25 minutes away. When we arrived, the parking area was closed. The surroundings were beautiful: rivers, open land, animals, two people walking a dog, and a nearby golf area. But once again, there was nowhere to park, so we stayed in the car the entire time.

By then, I was overwhelmed. I had packed hot tea and barely touched it. It was already around 2:45 p.m., and we had been out since late morning without truly spending time in nature the way we had hoped. With winter days being so short, I knew the light would soon be gone.

I started crying on the drive home. I was disappointed that I had missed that quiet Christmas time in nature I had been longing for. My partner stayed calm and supportive. He asked what I needed in that moment and whether I wanted to try somewhere else or just go home. I decided it was best to head back.

He tried changing the music to cheer me up, and after a while, I noticed him moving to one of my favourite artists, Davido. I could not resist joining in. He smiled and said, “Let’s not let the outcome of today linger for long.”

With no restaurants open, he asked if I wanted KFC. We stopped, but the food was poorly cooked and disappointing, so we barely ate it. After that, my partner suggested going to a familiar spot by the water where we often watch the sunset. Before heading there, we stopped at Tesco to buy food to cook at home. Watching the sunset helped. It was peaceful, and we finally slowed down, talked, and laughed a little.

Despite everything, my partner did his best to make sure I felt supported. He reminded me that some days do not go as planned, but they can still be meaningful. We agreed that next time we visit a new nature spot, we will carefully read reviews beforehand. Other visitors often leave helpful details about parking, routes, and which location to enter into the map. Today, we were simply on the wrong route, and time ran out.

In the end, we spent the day together. We made up for the tension from yesterday. We came home, had wine and chocolate, and settled down to watch a movie. It was not the day we planned, but it will be one we remember and laugh about. 

If this post feels confusing on its own, reading my previous post from the 25th of December will help. This is a follow-up to that story. Thank you to everyone who read and commented. I appreciate you.

I took a few photos of the sunset, but they might not be very clear; however, I hope you enjoy viewing them.  

I hope your holiday is filled with peace and calm. How did you spend your Boxing Day? Hopefully with fewer wrong turns than me.



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  1. Melody, fico feliz em tudo ter se acertado com a briga do dia anterior. Ainda bem! E, ainda que não tenham conseguido o dia perfeito, estiveram juntos o tempo todo e certamente bons momentos esperam vocês! beijos, chica

    Boas Festas!

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    1. Yes, we spent the day together, and we laughed it off. Thank you, and wishing you the best for the season.

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  2. Uy a veces las cosas no salen como planeamos mientras estamos con quienes queremos. Te mando un beso.

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    1. It happens, but we had a laugh at the end. Thank you so much. Wishing you a good holiday season.

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  3. So sorry to hear your day was a disappointment but you ended up with some beautiful photos. Hope tomorrow turns out wonderful!!

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    1. Thank you so much. Today I am resting all day and also reading a blog and watching Netflix movies. Wishing the best for the holiday season. Besides, I slept so well.

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  4. 聖誕可以跟家人一起已是最好的禮物.

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  5. Boxing Day is on the relaxing side of Christmas, and that is what we did aside from taking a short and cold walk to the pharmacy for milk and cough medicine.

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    1. That's a simple but lovely way to spend Boxing Day. Thank you so much, and happy holidays!

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  6. Holidays can be stressful in ways we don't even recognize or know. I think getting out for the day was a good idea, but it's too bad that didn't go as you planned either. But watching the movie, having chocolate and wine, well that sounds great. I'm sure in the future you'll look back and laugh. I hope it was a good movie too. :) I hope or time between Christmas and New years will be wonderful, and 2026 will start off great too. And maybe make up for Christmas, at least a little bit. hugs-Erika

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  7. Oh Melody, sometimes the plans go sideways, but it sounds like you still made it a memorable day together. Love that sunset ending!

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    1. Thank you so much, Veronica. Wishing you a calm and fruitful holiday season.

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  8. I had to work today, and while it wasn't a bad day at work, I think your day, for all its disappointments, probably went better.

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    1. Oh dear, I will take that. Thank you so much! Happy holidays!

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  9. What a line of bad luck.... Next year, stay at home. ;)

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    1. Hahahahaha, next year I won't plan, I will just do whatever comes to mind on that day hahahaha

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  10. My comment is not related to your experience but to your photos. I like your photos. I feel like that I'm looking down the sky, which reminded me of the time when I was lying on the grass looking up at the sky, the deep sky felt like an abyss beneath me. The photos reminded me of that strange sensation.
    Yoko

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    1. Oh, glad you got reminded of something special! I enjoy looking up at the sky; it's calming.

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  11. MELODY, у нас есть поговорка - "Всё хорошо, что хорошо кончается". Я рада, что вы пошли друг другу навстречу. Закат - это очень хорошо, красиво.
    Я понимаю твоё разочарование, что не смогли попасть в парк, куда планировали. Мы с мужем один раз тоже так приехали не с той стороны парка, и не получилось найти вход, так же проехали вдоль забора почти час. С тех пор я ищу на карте именно вход в то место, куда мы едем.

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  12. I won't lie, I got frustrated and teared up, but well, life happens, and today I am just resting and watching Netflix. Thank you for reading. All the best.

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  13. En ocasiones el Google Maps suele fallar recuerdo en una ocasión que me mandaba meterme con el coche por un pantano o realizar un giro a la izquierda en una autovía. Por ello suelo mirar rutas antes de salir de casa y así puedo rectificar si me confunde. Bueno en una ocasión en un error mío me hizo rectificar sin tener que recorrer un montón de kilómetros.
    Aunque creo que ver esa puesta de sol como dices compenso todas frustraciones del día.

    Saludos.

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    1. I can relate to that more than I would like to admit. Technology is helpful, but there is still something to be said for knowing your way and thinking ahead before setting off. Sometimes a small mistake turns out to be a quiet blessing, especially when it leads to an unexpected view or a moment to slow down. That sunset really did feel like a gentle reminder that not every detour is wasted, and I am glad it helped redeem an otherwise trying day.

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  14. Anyway you were lucky not to have a traffic accident.

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  15. Boa tarde:- Passando novamente a fim de deixar votos de:
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    Bom fim de semana.
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    Que o ANO NOVO de 2026, traga Saúde, Paz, Harmonia, esperança, e tudo o mais que seja bom para si, sua família e amizades.
    ..
    “” Poema: - Próspero ano de 2026 … Feliz Año Nuevo 2026.

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  16. I'm really sorry, Melody me dear friend about all this situation. Never mind, my dear. Think that it just was a bad moment not by your fault. There will be a lot of chances to the future.
    Our second Christmas day, (We do not call it "boxing day" in Greece), was peacefull with all the family together.
    Kisses my friend.

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    1. Thank you, Giannis. Your kind words mean more to me than you know. You are right, some moments are simply difficult and pass in their own time, and it helps to be reminded of that by a dear friend. Hearing about your second Christmas day, with the whole family together and at peace, truly warms my heart. Those simple gatherings are what stay with us and give us strength. I am grateful for your thoughtfulness and your friendship.

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  17. Sorry that the trip didn´t went the way you wanted but in the end you tried and did your best. Thats what counts. Happy new year 2026 with many nature experiences !
    Al the best
    Lasse

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    1. Thanks, Lasse! I really appreciate that. You're right, at least I gave it a shot, and sometimes the effort is what matters most.

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  18. I'm so sorry to read that your plans for spending Boxing Day at the Cairngorms went awry, but I love it that your partner was so supportive, so that the day ended on a positive note! xxx

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    1. Thank you so much. Life happens, but we have to be thankful for every moment.

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  19. Gosh, those sky views are absolutely amazing! Sorry the the trip didn't go as planned, Melody. Your partner is a sweet heart :-)) Happy New Year to you two!

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    1. Thank you so much, Angie. I hope you had a wonderful Christmas.

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  20. This post fills me with a peaceful, quiet joy. No, it didn't go as you wanted, it didn't go as planned. But you did this together, you were supported and you did find a bit of nature. It's hard, when we forget that life doesn't happen on cue and sometimes very off-cue. But it sounds like much good was gained in this odd day. I always say "I love the holidays, till I don't!" They can be very stressful and they certainly aren't always like a good movie! But I think you found a bit of a happy ending on this day, for which I'm glad.

    As for me, Boxing day was home -- movies, quiet, then time with Rick. It was very good indeed.

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    1. You hit the nail on the head, Jeanie. Life definitely doesn't happen on cue, especially during the holidays. I love your 'till I don't' saying. It's so true. I'm glad I found that happy ending too, even if it looked different than I expected. Your quiet day with Rick sounds like exactly what the soul needs.

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  21. So ist es mir auch schon gegangen. Ich wollte einen großen Park besuchen und habe mit Maps den Eingang nicht gefunden. Meine Enkel, die mich begleiteten, waren sehr enäuscht. Zum Glück fanden wir eine Eisdiele als Trost für die Kleinen.

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    1. It really is a universal experience, isn't it? Sometimes the best-laid plans just end up with us lost and looking for a snack. It’s those messy moments that remind us to just go with the flow.

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  22. First these photos are amazing, next I'm sorry your Boxing Day wasn't what you wanted

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    1. Thank you so much. I'm glad you enjoyed the photos the sunset really was the saving grace of the day. It wasn't what we planned, but looking back at those views makes the wrong turns feel a little more worth it.

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  23. Glad you handled it with your usual Grace!

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    1. Thank you, Cloudia. That means a lot. It didn't always feel like grace in the moment, but I'm glad we found our way through it together.

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  24. Dear Melody, how wonderful that you still managed to make the best of this day. Life often doesn't go according to our plans – for example, we were sick for two weeks and had to postpone many things – but most of the time, you can make something good out of changes of plan.
    I wish you and everyone who is important to you a happy and healthy New Year,
    🎇🍀🐞✨ Traude
    rostrose.blogspot.com/2025/12/leben-lesen-weitergehen-und-ein-gedanke.html

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    1. Thank you, Traude. I'm so sorry you were sick for two weeks. You're so right that we can usually find something good in the changes of plan, even if it's just learning to slow down. I wish you a very happy and healthy 2026 as well.

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  25. Sounds as though you have been blessed with a very caring and supportive partner.
    The photos are spectacular.

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    1. I'm glad you liked the photos too, the sunset definitely made the long drive feel worth it.

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  26. Sometimes ruined pre plans are a blessing in disguise. Happy new year, Melody!

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    1. You are so right, Irina. It didn't feel like a blessing while we were lost, but looking back, the quiet time we ended up having was exactly what we needed. Happy New Year to you too.

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  27. What a frustrating Boxing Day experience! I can understand that you were feeling overwhelmed and disappointed after all of that driving and all of the issues that were encountered. I love what was said: "Let's not let the outcome of today linger for long." What a beautiful statement and a nice reminder. I love that your partner did his best to make you feel supported, especially after the difficulties on Christmas Day. It sounds like you both have a strong focus on communication. It is clear that you care deeply for one another. What a blessing <3

    the creation of beauty is art.

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    1. Thank you for such. That line from him really was the turning point for me; it shifted my focus from the 'lost' day to the person right next to me.

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  28. Cieszę się, że się pogodziliscie i w końcu miło spędziliście drugi dzień świąt. Ja się leniłam, czytałam książkę i oglądałam filmy, słuchałam muzyki klasycznej. Czasem lubię wyjść i oglądać szopki w starych kościołach. Zaraz po świętach pojechaliśmy w góry o czym ostatnio pisałam.

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    1. That sounds like a dream, Kasia. Sometimes being 'lazy' with a book and some music is the best way to recharge.

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