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Sunday, June 16, 2019

Mistakes Parents Make that drives youths away from the Church: Here is my experience growing up in Deeper Life Church

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This is not an attack on the background of the Church but to improve and correct such acts. Not only Deeper Life parents do this but I am talking from my experience as a Deeper Life child.
We are not perfect but Heavenly race is personal and I pray that every parent that reads this understands it in the proper way. Amen.

Growing up in a strong Christian home, I knew nothing besides school and church. I wasn't allowed to do a lot of things, things as little as wearing dark sunglasses were considered to be things of the world. I wondered and thought about a lot in my heart. My parents focused more on building my spiritual life which isn't bad but less of my social life. I was a very reserved child growing up. I couldn't play with some children because they were considered worldly children. I really wanted to associate with other people but as they say, the more you draw us back, the more curious we become and we tend to want to discover more. 



It is a great privilege to know about Jesus Christ and to be born into a Christian home but there are certain things which most Christian parents, especially Deeper Life parents failed to expose growing children and teenagers to, and it affected them so much. I have spoken to a lot of  Deeper lifers especially youths and I have gotten almost the same answer as to why they left the church or why they departed from practicing the doctrines of the church. Deeper Life is a church that preaches sound doctrine and the pure word of God, but most parents have failed in certain ways because we live in a world where socializing and knowing the basics of life is needed.

There are certain behaviors and mistakes that Deeper Life parents have made in the past which needs to be corrected.

Not giving reasons:  I grew up as a deeper life child and I am still one. Most teachings are focused on the heavenly race and making heaven which is the most important thing, but you will agree with me that we live in a world full of humans and not angels. Parents fail to teach their children and teenagers about facing life. This is totally different from giving instructions, attending youth seminars and an endless number of December and Easter retreats. What you hear more is,... "I don't want to ever see you standing with a boy", "don't disgrace me", oh, "never you bring a girl to my house", "do you want me to be disciplined"?, "You are from a Christian home for Christ's sake" etc. They do not effectively pass any message to us about life and our body. This leaves our heart void and wondering. As a Deeper Life child, I had so many questions, some of which are yet to be answered. I wondered why I couldn't do a lot of things and it made me anticipate growing up. Most Deeper Life brought ups when exposed misuse the opportunity due to lack of proper communication with their parents, not understanding the reason why an action or activity is said to be bad. Parents spend hours advising and giving instructions without passing any information. Be straight forward with teachings that concern life. If you indulge in sexual activities, you will get pregnant. Discuss with your children, teach them practically to be bold, hear their views and understand their mindset about life. Lots of Deeper Life parents only teach their children about the Bible but what about life? Discuss sex education, relationship and the right way to socialize instead of always telling them that other people are unbelievers and you are expected to stay away from them, that the Bible commands us to do so. Well, like most of them do, when they leave home away from their parents they seek for answers and go in search of it because parents fail to give reasons as to why certain things are said to be wrong but instead they just give instructions backing it up with the Bible and forget that we face humans and not words.


Forcing a child to attend church (Punishing and flogging a child to Christ): The Bible says, (Proverbs 22:6), Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. What is the meaning of train, the dictionary meaning of the word train is to teach (a person or animal) a particular skill or type of behavior through sustained practice and instruction? ( instruct, teach, coach, tutor, give lessons to, school, educate, upskill, edify, prime, demonstrate something to, make something clear to). People often use this verse as a guarantee that if you raise your children “in the discipline and instruction of the Lord” the child stays that way. Sometimes the reason why most teenagers depart from it is because of the hard way parents use in pushing them towards God. I can remember my Dad flogging my brothers for missing Church. When it comes to teaching a teenager about the Bible it is best that you communicate effectively and not forcefully, because most Deeper Life brought ups attended Church because of the fear of being flogged, punished or as a normal tradition in their homes so they didn't understand the bible truly and never experienced what it means to be born again. The bible said in (Ephesians 6:4) And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

What is the meaning of Nurture?
(care for and protect (someone or something) while they are growing). To bring up, care for, provide for, take care of, attend to, look after, rear, support and to raise.
What is the meaning of Admonition? (a firm warning or reprimand which is a formal expression of disapproval.).
You don't beat a child or teenager to Christ, you teach and lead them to Christ. By punishing them, they become rebellious to you as a parent, to the church leaders and they tend to go against Church rules because after all it all ends up in the normal punishment and all they do is wait until they are of age to make decisions and leave the Church. Deeper Life growing youths are always itching to leave the Church, some don't even want to identify with the church when they are of age. This leads them into not wanting to associate themselves with anything that has to do with Deeper Life Church due to such stress and upbringing. I remember going to church three times a week but I never understood why. I was under my parents and since I was being forced to attend church, I obeyed every instruction and got used to the routine without understanding the actual essence and importance of going to church. Deeper Life Bible Church has lost a lot of youths due to such style of discipline. Most youths still believe in the teachings but because of the lifestyle they faced while growing up they leave the church when they can.


Trusting other members easily: Even in the church, we have to be careful. After I finished my primary education, I wrote my common entrance examination and passed. My dad decided to take us to a school to write the school entrance examination. I remember my brother getting a very high score than I and he got an express entry while I was waiting to be considered. I didn't fail but the competition was high, so they needed to evaluate the result of people with an average score point and so they asked my parents to wait alongside other parents. While waiting in the car to hear from the school, I can not remember if it was my mum or my dad that first saw this man called Chris Nwankwo but I can clearly remember that one of them approached him to ask some questions and as usual they asked if he was a born again Christian and that was when they found out he was a member of Deeper Life. They were so happy and instantly introduced me to him, adding that he will be my guardian. My mum even spoke our native language to him telling him that ''I am his child in the lord".  I was very young and happy because I have been trained to see all Deeper Life members as true believers of Jesus Christ. Well, I got the admission and my parents sewed long oversized uniforms and day wears for me. I wasn't looking smart at all but I was excited to attend boarding school. I couldn't sleep the preceding day and so I stayed awake packing and unpacking my box. I was so happy. After we checked in into the school, my parents called Mr. Chris and gave him some money to keep for me, instructing me to always go to him each time I needed something.  I did as instructed but each time I got there, he would always welcome me with a tight hug that felt really uncomfortable but my mind had already been set to see him as a saint since he is a Deeper Life member. Besides, don't forget that my parents barely even knew him. The hug graduated to back rubs, then lower back rubs until one day he boldly rubbed my thighs and I ran out of his office, never to come back for anything. My Dad called saying your guardian has not been seeing you and I replied Dad, I don't want him to be my guardian anymore. Well, guess the reply from my Dad;  "he is our brother in the lord and has been asking of you". The trust Deeper Life members give to fellow members is so unbelievable. Up until now they never found out why I stopped going to that man's office and decided to keep my money by myself.
It is only God who sees the heart, I know most times they mean well, but such careless act in Christendom has to stop. You commit a young girl child to a man all because he attends the same church as you. Remember even Deeper Lifers have blood flowing through their vein, they are humans and can also be tempted. After all, Jesus Christ was tempted.

"And GOD saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth and that every imagination of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually." Genesis 6:5, KJV.
"The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?" Jeremiah 17:9, KJV.
"And he said, That which cometh out of the man, that defileth the man. For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, Thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: All these evil things come from within, and defile the man." Mark 7:20-23, KJV.

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Friday, June 14, 2019

Must-have Ankara style trench coats that will upgrade your style

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Ankara fashion is all over Instagram. Not only Africans are obsessed with the unique fashion style, which is not surprising because Ankara fabrics have very unique print styles. They are very fashionable and make a loud style statement. Wonder how a trench coat can change your whole look in seconds? I have worn this trench coat to different places and the responses are always unique. This art print of red jumping horses made me want the Kira trench dress in different colors. African fashion, style, dance, and music are taking over the world. Fashion houses and designers are putting the Ankara fabric into more valuable style use. A lot of designers are creating more English styles with Ankara fabrics. Years back, Ankara fabrics were mostly worn or tailored to portray the traditional African style which I also love, but the diversity in style is also a great idea. 



Tufafii is a standout made of Africa clothing representing made in Africa and I am so proud to be wearing this unique design. This designer has a large supply of any fabric and clothing representing Africa. A large clothing supply that includes, blouses, jackets, trench coats, pants, skirts, jumpsuits, and dresses. Ankara Bags and scarves are also available for purchase worldwide.  Men are not left out. The Tufafiiman collection is also available for purchase.


Wina Dress
The Wina Dress is a wrap maxi dress with Long Sleeves and a tie belt around the waist. It has a big sleeve which makes it even more unique.


Kira trench dress
Tufafii Kira trench dress is very artistic. I first wore it to a praise night at a church gathering and everyone loved it. It is neatly stitched and the length is perfect. Being that the prints already speaks for itself, I added fewer accessories to keep it simple. The jessicaburrman genna crocodile skin bag is a perfect match.


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Thursday, June 13, 2019

Get in Shape With 9 Easy Rules To Follow

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Everybody wants to be in shape, yet not everybody is in shape, so what gives? It turns out that reaching whatever our fitness goals are isn’t always the easiest thing in the world. Indeed, sometimes it feels like the hardest. We’re constantly coming up against barriers that bump our health and fitness targets further down the priority list. And then there’s the matter of, well, not really knowing what to do even if we are motivated. If you’re struggling to get in shape for whatever reason, take a look at following the rules that we’ve outlined below. 



Find an Activity You Like
Some people genuinely are motivated to get in shape and join a gym to prove it. But in many cases a problem quickly presents itself: they find out that there’s a reason why gyms have a bad reputation. They’re boring. It’s hard to stay motivated when you’re wishing you were doing anything else. As such, it’s recommended that instead of going straight for the gym and the like, look at getting in shape by doing something that you like. Playing a sport might not be better than the gym by itself, but it’ll be much better to play an hour of that sport than lasting just fifteen minutes in the gym. 

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And Make It Easy
Whatever you’re doing, be it running or visiting the gym or anything else, you’ll need all the help you can get to ensure that you actually do it. Vague plans don’t work. If you say you’ll go in the morning, you’ll convince yourself that the extra time in bed is better. If you say you’ll go after work, you’ll say you’re too tired. As such, work on making it as easy as you can for yourself. If you want to go in the morning, then lay out all of your clothes and equipment before you go to bed. When you wake, you’ll just need to take that one step out of bed, and you’ll be on your way. In general, it’s best to completely ignore the voice in your mind that says “you can also go tomorrow…” and just go ahead and do it. 

Sleep Well
When people talk about getting in shape, they’re usually exclusively focused on eating well and exercising. But there’s another factor that’s arguably just as important: sleeping. This plays a huge role in our ability to keep our weight down, and also to have the energy we need to work out to the best of our ability. The hormone changes that lack of sleep causes means we end up eating more. So if you’re serious about getting into a fit and healthy state, then focus on your sleep routine and habits

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Set a Target
Even people who are generally motivated to visit the gym and the like can lose interest in a while, and it’s because of one simple reason: they don’t have a target in mind. It’s like anything. If you go for a walk without an aim in mind, you’ll just turn around when you lose some interest in the process. If you knew you were trying to reach a particularly beautiful spot, then you’d ride out the boredom, and carry on walking. The same applies to fitness. It doesn’t matter so much what the goal is, so long as you have something in mind when you begin. It’ll help to keep you focused. 



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Monday, June 10, 2019

5 reasons to buy vintage bags

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The must-have vintage mini handbag from Jessicabuurman.

Vintage bags are so cute and can be styled in different ways. They are very durable and most times you find very good vintage bags at the thrift store. Jessicabuurman's deep coffee genna crocodile skin leather tote bag comes in handy each time I want to keep it simple, rich and expensive. This bag can contain your phone, mini money purse, lipstick and power bank. The leather quality is very good and the animal print being the crocodile-skin style is very unique.
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Saturday, June 8, 2019

Pinkbasis royal blue sleeveless romper

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Rompers are trending, they look good and sexy depending on the styling. Pinkbasis offers mass sales of rompers as low as $9. Summer sales are on, go shop your travel and vacation wears from the online store. Discount codes are also available, all you need to do is sign up to the newsletter to get notified. 
Outfit details
Romper: Pinkbasis.
Glasses: Kaca Kaca.
Hat: Szaleopl.
Shoes: Czasnabuty.pl.



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Monday, June 3, 2019

How to style a wrap snake print dress: Overcome ophidiophobia, the fear of snakes.

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There are different ways to style snake prints. You must have seen celebrities like Rihanna, Kim Kardashian, Nicki Minaj and lots more wearing a snake print design, either in a music video or in a public appearance. Snake print got really trendy and every IT girl and fashionista enjoyed styling it except me because I get easily irritated by a snake. The imagination of a snake close to my skin keeps coming to my mind each time I see snake print fabric. I decided to overcome my fear and phobia and look how flawlessly sexy I look wearing a snake print.  





How to overcome the fear of snakes (ophiophobia).

Ophidiophobia, or ophiophobia, is a phobia which relates to the fear of snakes. It is said to be abnormal but I think no one wants a snake around him or her. I will like to say that this is not as easy as I make it seem. I still have a very strong phobia I am battling with but I had to overcome it just because I wanted to try out the snake print trend. Aminals prints such as zebra print, leopard and fish prints do not affect me so I was super excited to always wear them.

Each time I see the picture snakes on the internet the mood changes, I get so irritated and disgusted, fear comes in, I start imagining things. I had to overcome my fears because I really wanted to feature styling tips on how to wear snake print.

1. It is all about you, only you can decide how this can work with your mind. Be in control of your thoughts.

2. It's all in your mind. Our weak thoughts are developed when we allow a weak flow towards a particular subject. Try to channel your thoughts into the stronger part when you start thinking about snakes.

3. Don't over think it. In as much as we can not control some thoughts but we can kill thoughts and control them in a way. Do not let these thought grow. They grow and you keep imagining the deadly things snakes can do. Keep your mind free and clean from those thoughts.

4. Try to Speak to yourself. Step on it in your head, it is only a print.

5. Try to feel it more often to keep you aware that it's just a piece of fabric and that's what it will be.


How to style snake print
Styling snake print is very easy because it is already a detailed fabric, tho you can easily go wrong with it. Here are 5 tips to keep in mind when styling snake print. This applies to all animal prints.

1. Keep your accessories simple.

2. Burgundy color suits snake print. Add a touch of burgundy, it is never a bad idea.
3. A black bag is always a perfect idea.

4. Stilettos make you look sexier, simple and effortless.

5 Show some skin.

7. Cow prints match with snake prints. Both stand out giving a more artistic view and style statement.

6. Your pose and attitude when wearing snake print matters. It is a bold print so if you go bold, be ready to put on a bold and fierce attitude. 
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Saturday, June 1, 2019

The perfect summer office vices shoes

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Shoes from vices are always durable and last really long. Are you looking for the perfect flat shoes to compliment your office look in summer? then head over to Czasnabuty.pl to get affordable shoes at a low shipping rate.
Type of heel: without heel
Nose type: full
Closure type: lacing
Material: coated artificial leather, artificial leather
Season: spring / summer
Platform: 5cm
Insole: eco leather
Occasion: every day, for an evening/party
Pattern: animal
Style: casual, fashion
Heel: built-in, soft
Sole: made of plastic, with tread.




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Friday, May 31, 2019

How to look extra in a maxi dress

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Maxi dresses are for summer because they are airy and free. If you want to step up a maxi dress and look extra then there are different ways in which that can be done. These are simple tips that actually depends on the type of maxi dress and the design of the maxi dress you are wearing. If the maxi dress a plain and extra simple then you might not look as extra as I look, but nevertheless it will definitely look better. 




This multicolored printed Plunging Neck Party Floral Paneled Pleated Maxi Dress felt like a dream when you wore it. I was all over the place, I needed more people to see my dress, so I went to the city center for a mini walk after taking these photos. The designer being fantasyou did an excellent job by mixing floral and leaf prints with plain fabric. I wanted to look a little extra so I added some accessories that gave my outfit not just a vacation feel, but a look of the sexy modern woman.



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Thursday, May 30, 2019

Motivational Thursday : Imbalance, touching fire and conquering

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Life is full of deep questions that are yet to be answered. Why do we do the things we do, knowing that they are capable of making or destroying us. Sometimes it not about the act, it is about the mind, it plays us, it's like a team of people at a football field looking for the best way to conquer and be victorious, but solving and planning the victory gets complicated and only the strong can sail through.

Life sometimes pushes us to a state of imbalance, how do you explain touching fire without getting burnt. Our decisions are open to where we go, who we hang out with, what we think about and what we live for. Let it be meaningful, fulfilling and approachable. Something you will be able to be proud of, so at the end of the day, you can stand high and say yes I did it no matter what came my way.

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